AT THE FEET OF THE MOTHER

Relationships

A couple of months back a guy I went for lunch with paid for my lunch because the place didn’t accept card payment. At the time I was sick, and so I forgot about it. A month later, the person reminded me of it (the amount was trifling). I was going to do it, but got distracted by various other things and so forgot again, and so the next day this person gave me a middle finger, called me a thief, telling me that he wishes I get into an accident, and swore at me. I finally gave him the money the same day, apologised for the delay, but also told him that what he told me was over the bar and unacceptable. He didn’t even reply anything. Now, whenever I see this person, he looks away and avoids me. Any normal person would have long apologised and behaved appropriately, but I suspect that this person’s extremely strange behaviour is due to his drug use (he told me earlier that he took psychedelics recently). Something in me pities him, yet at the same time I also don’t feel comfortable around him because of his strange behaviour. Can you suggest what is the best attitude I should take in this situation🫤?

It is the sign of meanness. It is best to keep distance from such people unless you are responsible for them in any way. To

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There is always a bitter taste behind the human love―it is only the Divine Love which never disappoints”. How does one deal with disappointments, expectations, even when we think we are ready from within to deal with everything suddenly a blow comes and shatter everything. The more I get engaged in these outer things, the more farther I find myself from The Mother. Which is the most heartbreaking thing for me😣.

One has to go through the experiences of life to understand this profound truth. Some learn fast, some slowly the lesson of life that in

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How do some people move from one relationship to another so quickly, almost overnight? Do they not have feelings, or do they simply not care about the emotions of the person they leave behind? It’s heartbreaking how relationships that once seemed so deep filled with words like “I love you so much” and “You’re my everything”—can end so badly. Were those words ever real, or do people change so easily? Now they will say the same words to other person. How can someone who once cherished you now walk away so easily with someone else, hurt you, and immediately start a new relationship as if nothing happened? Do they ever reflect on the pain they cause to other😪?

It is difficult to generalise such things and, i must say very very rare to move suddenly overnight. Generally a build up is taking place

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I’m struggling with strong feelings of sexual jealousy because my ex-partner has found someone new. Our relationship is over, but the thought of him being intimate with another woman deeply upsets me. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but I can’t stop these emotions. Even though it may be stupid to think all these but these thoughts are overwhelming me, and I don’t know how to deal with them. I am very jealous 😫

Jealousy is stupid enough but sexual Jealousy is truly falling into a hole. It means one is comparing one’s capacity to satisfy a partner sexually

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Why is it that people who were once so deeply connected can become complete strangers almost overnight, as if all the shared moments meant nothing? How can they move on so quickly and find someone new, while blaming you for the breakup, claiming that your actions or words pushed them away? They justify their cold behaviour by saying that making you suffer will somehow make you stronger. But how can they not see the emotional chaos they leave behind—the emptiness, the loneliness, the struggle with rejection and abandonment? Is it fair to rationalize their actions as a way of helping you grow, while completely ignoring the hurt they’ve caused? [Conti]

It is because the relationship was largely in the vital physical domains, or on the surface emotions where things don’t stay for long. It means

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I feel deeply disappointed in my relationship because my partner is very cold when it comes to expressing his feelings. He shows no excitement in life and rarely appreciates me. We never talk about our relationship, which leaves me feeling disconnected and alone. Often, he comes up with excuses for everything. Sometimes, he puts in effort and does a lot, but other times, he does nothing at all. We are married and live together, but it feels like I am the only one who expresses emotions and goes the extra mile to make things work. I constantly find myself questioning where we stand because we never openly discuss our emotions or the state of our relationship. I even suggested going to a counselor to help us communicate better, but he dismissed the idea, saying, “I’m not mad.” It’s exhausting to be the only one constantly trying while he remains emotionally distant and unresponsive😥.

Most relationship generally tend to become so. After the initial vital flush that attracts and draws people together is over. The usual mechanical round of

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My partner enjoys eating non-veg, drinking, and partying, whereas I am the complete opposite—I prefer a quiet lifestyle, vegetarian food, and don’t like partying. We even tried to make the relationship work by agreeing that he could go to parties if he wanted, but he shouldn’t expect me to join. Despite our efforts to do our own things and tried to live in harmony, we still end up fighting so much. I’m not sure what to do🤨?

This is unlikely to work. The divergence and dissonance is too fundamental to be overlooked for life. Each doing their own thing is not harmony

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Why is it so difficult to break up with someone😭? There are things you like about the person, yet at the same time, some things don’t feel right about the same person. If two people aren’t meant to be together for a lifetime, why do they meet, fall in love, and then drift apart? Why do girls become so emotionally attached that letting go feels nearly impossible? The thought of that person loving and treating someone else the same way they treated you can be heartbreaking. You also feel jealous about these things. It’s(the breakup) overwhelming—making it hard to focus on anything in life, leaving you feeling sad all day and night, and disconnected from everything happening around you.

It is the sense of loss that torments us in a breakup. We naturally get attached to all that nourishes or nurtures us in some

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I feel very insecure in relationships and friendships. I have a strong need to know every detail about my partner and friends—their actions, decisions, and daily activities. If they don’t share things with me, I tend to fight. I also get jealous when they talk to others. I struggle to understand their need for privacy. I want to learn how to deal with these insecurities and build healthier relationships🙄.

Insecurity in relationship arises if there is a certain degree of emotional dependency upon the friend or partner. There is a fear of losing the

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They often tell me that it was the householders who had the supramental “downloads” or words to that effect. They also say marriage is an airplane route in this Integral Yoga Path. I’m not a grihastha as it is against the truth of my being & not in consonance with my needs. Not being a grihastha limits my exposure & experience of human interactions & hence limits the field & scope for progress. Am I then unfit or not qualified either for Integral Yoga or for being touched by supramental? Supramental is too far afield but these queries do come up now & then with age & passage of time). Please shed some light on this 🙏

This is supported neither by facts nor by spiritual logic. The truth of the matter is that marriage does come with a huge burden as

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I am officially separated from my partner, but a part of me is struggling to let them go. Some of it stems from jealousy, the thought that they might find someone better. While I genuinely want them to be happy, there’s still a part of me holding on. How can I make peace with the idea that they may eventually find someone else and love that person 😪?

Let them find whoever they are destined to find but an abiding happiness through objects of desire is as rare, if not impossible in the

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Does your boyfriend/girlfriend need to know everything about you and your life? Thing is, there are parts that my boyfriend won’t understand, and I can’t expect him to understand. But the love I have for the other person is true in its essence. I can’t give up either for the other, but it feels not beautiful to hide things. Equally, I don’t have the space to talk openly and if he knew it would break his heart. Is it better to just break off one relationship😥?

This is a tricky situation. To start with no one can ever understand the other person fully. In fact we ourselves cannot understand our own

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