I have been in a relationship with a girl for two years, but she has made it clear that we can never get married. Despite this, I strongly desire to live with her because I believe it would make me happier, more focused, and bring stability to my life. Physical intimacy is also important to me, and I deeply crave that connection with her😥. However, it is difficult to manage these feelings knowing her boundaries [conti]

I see people around me in similar relationships who seem very happy, they are happily married and it makes me long for the same. Since I am divorced, she has filled that void in my life and brought me happiness. However, I am uncertain how long this relationship will last. I have so many dreams with her, and I fear being devastated again if she leaves me.

The fear comes because of attachment which is inevitable in any long term relationship. This attachment is a normal process of nature and has nothing to do with marriage. So have no fear. Rather nurture the relationship with love and care. Rest will follow. If you give her love and respect and the needed freedom and care there is no reason why she should leave you. As to the uncertainty it is always there in life and the only way to counter it is to live with courage and faith, have trust in the Divine Grace, do your best and leave the rest in God’s safe hands.

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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