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My deception, which I did for a good purpose (for saving integrity within the family), is revealed and I am bashed out like anything. I don’t complain here, but I realised whatever the purpose may be, a deception is a deception. The Mother helped me learn a great lesson here. Can you please explain? πŸ˜₯πŸ‘¨πŸ»β€πŸ‘©πŸ»β€πŸ‘§πŸ»β€πŸ‘¦πŸ»πŸŒΉπŸ¦‹

It is difficult to say anything as i do not know what exactly happened. Also it depends upon what you mean by conscious deception as

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There are many difficulties in my house. No one is in a position to understand or explain anything. But my problem is that I am in the last year of my MA. Right now, or even for the next few years, I have no desire to get married, but no one seems to understand this. πŸ˜£πŸ“šπŸŒΉπŸ‘¨πŸ»β€β€οΈβ€πŸ‘©πŸ»[…]

A simple thumb rule for our times is that one should not marry until one is psychologically ready and financially independent. One should at least

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With respect to the Divine relations, a lot of friendships in my life have fallen away due to new values emerging in life. At the same time, a lot of family relationships have become deeper and truer, and they generate a sweetness in my life, especially with parents, siblings and elders with whom I had shared a good connection before (they all have their own connection to the Divine in their own way). πŸ‘¨πŸ»β€πŸ‘©πŸ»β€πŸ‘§πŸ»β€πŸ‘¦πŸ»πŸ˜ŠπŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»[…]

There is no set rule of things especially because sadhana moves largely in the inner being and it is the inner state, motives, attitudes that

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Why is it that many parents, especially those in their 50s, often glorify their past struggles, like working long hours to earn an extra $200, and keep reminding their children of the sacrifices they made to raise them? Why can’t they allow their children to recognize it naturally, instead of constantly seeking acknowledgment or credit and glorifying their struggles? πŸ™„πŸŒ»πŸ‘¨πŸ»β€πŸ‘©πŸ»β€πŸ‘§πŸ»β€πŸ‘¦πŸ»

Bringing up a child can be a very challenging task and sometimes it does require quite a bit of sacrifice. But the child has not

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Dada, please tell if the following is a sign that he is an obstacle to the path of Yoga? Why does it happen every time I am being approached by my romantic partner close enough with the intention of lovemaking or simply touching or being simply romantic, I feel a strong response of blackout (momentary loss of consciousness) and feel withdrawn with respect to consciousness. πŸ‘¨πŸ»β€β€οΈβ€πŸ‘©πŸ»πŸŒΉπŸ˜΅β€πŸ’«

It is not because he or anybody is an obstacle. All obstacles are within us. Normally our physical body and biology are hardwired to respond

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When sharing a tight space with my sibling, I end up fighting over minuscule things, such as when responsibilities are not shared equally or when she doesn’t keep the place neat and clean. I don’t want to get mentally affected by these things, but at the same time, I don’t want to take on the whole responsibility on behalf of both people. πŸ‘₯[…]

It should be shared, either by way of demarcation of responsibilities or else sharing of the common work. This will help both of you, especially

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