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Relationships

What should a child do in a situation where their parents have failed to provide the understanding they needed? Should the child try to forget and forgive or should they confront their parents and express everything, the pain, the emotional neglect, and how the parents made everything about themselves? Especially when the parents act as though they’ve done the child a favor by providing education and believe this puts them on a pedestal because they have worked hard to give it, expecting constant praise and obedience😄

The child should carve her own path leaving behold the past. It is easier by bringing in a right understanding. Parents, almost all parents of

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ā€œBhaiya, I wanted to ask you something. What is the right way to celebrate Rakshabandhan? My sister and cousin usually send me rakhis, and while I truly love and care for them, I don’t feel very connected to the rituals of the festival. I sometimes wonder if I should stop participating, or if I should continue just so they don’t feel hurt. What do you think is the right thing to do?ā€šŸ˜Œ

Stopping will hurt them and it is not needed as the ritual is simply one expression of love and care. You can pray for them,

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I’m going to pour my heart out here. For a number of years I have been out of any relationship, preferring to focus on my own personal goals and spiritual development. Recently, I met a girl with whom I entered into a casual relationship. We were spending a lot of time together, felt mutually happy, had a lot of fun, and had sexual contact as well (although it was not the main component). This thing lasted for only a month, and we both agreed from the start that it could not continue after this month because of our going to separate places. I even warned her from the very beginning that we have to be careful so as not to catch feelings towards each other. She said — yes, it will not happen. However, over time the situation changed. She fell in love with me, told me she never met someone like me, that I made her feel very happy and safe, and so on. I told her we could try to continue our relationship long distance. But personally, I don’t feel the same depth of feelings towards her😬. Nor can I imagine her as my long-term partner because I don’t feel that she is spiritually inclined. (It is important for me to be with someone who shared my aspiration).

These things happen when we are excessively focused on one aspect or dimension to the exclusion of others, especially the emotional and passionate aspects of

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What happens when two people in a relationship have an unequal (one person is extremely attracted, the other may feel some attraction but not to the same extent) amount of love towards each other? Is love a necessary prerequisite for living happily together, or is being simply comfortable and at peace around another person enough for this purpose🤨?

Love is everywhere and in everything. But if you mean human love then yes it works best if there is affinity at different levels. Attraction,

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How to Be Strong in Dealing with Family Life. My sister-in-law is unhappy that we don’t talk to her proactively. I don’t find it natural to start conversations with her. My spiritual teacher helped her a lot in the past, but it backfired on her. When I was getting married, she advised me to keep my distance. She is 39, unmarried, and has childhood trauma related to her parents. I want to support her, but I feel drained in the process. She often complains that my husband and I don’t talk to her enough. I can feel her pain, but I don’t know how to support her in a healthy way😄 [conti]

One should not try to help unless one is very clear about what is the real reason of her problem. Whatever be the past issues

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I have been in a relationship with a girl for two years, but she has made it clear that we can never get married. Despite this, I strongly desire to live with her because I believe it would make me happier, more focused, and bring stability to my life. Physical intimacy is also important to me, and I deeply crave that connection with her😄. However, it is difficult to manage these feelings knowing her boundaries [conti]

The fear comes because of attachment which is inevitable in any long term relationship. This attachment is a normal process of nature and has nothing

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Being a bad friend: I see a certain insensitivity in me to other people. I lack empathy in some situations, and it makes me feel very bad about myself. I have lost friends in the past because of this. While I generally try to help people, there is something in me unsympathetic towards others. Because of this tendency, I feel myself incapable towards building lasting friendships. I have cried about it, and at this point I don’t even feel like having friends anymore because I’m conscious of this defect in my nature, so I don’t want to repeat the same cycle again and experience the same moral pain that I feel. For now, I can only observe it and feel bad about it. How to change it I have no idea🫤.

This is not such a big defect and in certain ways it is not necessarily a defect. It is possibly because you make your own

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My in-laws have strong opinions and a dominant voice. At times, their energy impacts me deeply. How can I stop being affected by them so much? Right now, we are living away from them due to work. But in the future, if we have to live together, it scares me😱. In their presence, I feel there is no room for self-expression or choice. [conti]

Practice inwardness and be an impartial indifferent witness to all that is going on within and outside. Practice equanimity and most important of all, inner

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