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Being a bad friend: I see a certain insensitivity in me to other people. I lack empathy in some situations, and it makes me feel very bad about myself. I have lost friends in the past because of this. While I generally try to help people, there is something in me unsympathetic towards others. Because of this tendency, I feel myself incapable towards building lasting friendships. I have cried about it, and at this point I don’t even feel like having friends anymore because I’m conscious of this defect in my nature, so I don’t want to repeat the same cycle again and experience the same moral pain that I feel. For now, I can only observe it and feel bad about it. How to change it I have no idea🫤.

This is not such a big defect and in certain ways it is not necessarily a defect. It is possibly because you make your own

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My in-laws have strong opinions and a dominant voice. At times, their energy impacts me deeply. How can I stop being affected by them so much? Right now, we are living away from them due to work. But in the future, if we have to live together, it scares me😱. In their presence, I feel there is no room for self-expression or choice. [conti]

Practice inwardness and be an impartial indifferent witness to all that is going on within and outside. Practice equanimity and most important of all, inner

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I am in a committed relationship with my partner for almost 5 years. The first few years were normal but since last year we both have had issues mentally. We’re both seeking therapies from our respective therapists but as of now the constant fights is ruining the very aspect of happiness in our relationship and I feel like the love we had for each other has lessened. Their is minimal to no mutual respect for each other and I know that we’ll stick by each other till the end but I’m not very hopeful if we’ll be happy . My question to you was if a lot of boundaries have been crossed and we’ve said things to each other we can’t really take back 😪and there’s a lot of bitterness for each other and we’re not as passionate about each other as we used to be. Even after all these things will we able to put things in the past and move forward. Do things get better after all these things ? I try as long as I can but sometimes, I don’t see that patience and willingness to work on our relationship from the other side so what am I supposed to do to make things better ?

It is difficult to say much without knowing all the details which for obvious reasons cannot be done through the email. However given your age,

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How can you manage your life when you are living around pleasure centric individuals, either they want to party and make programs and if they are at home they are irritated.. and they hinder your work …so what to do? As there is a point in live that I just want to avoid them as I have nothing more to talk to them and also I get annoyed with the amount of social programs they make😪…

Here is a letter of Sri Aurobindo with regard to contact with the outside world. Here is a letter of Sri Aurobindo with regard to

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I’ve developed mutual romantic feelings for my cousin. We’re not very closely related, but not too distant either. Some of my muslim friends say there’s nothing wrong with it, also I feel a strong physical attraction toward this person. I’m wondering if this is wrong, especially if we end up getting physically involved😥.

It is quite likely a physical attraction alone. Regardless of being a cousin and setting aside moral notions, physical relation before marriage comes with a

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