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Relationships

Da, I don’t want to get married, but my single mother wants me to get married and have children, and the usual things. But I don’t want to get attached to these things. I fear that if I get married, I will have the worst marriage, and almost whenever the topic of marriage comes up, I almost imagine doing the worst things and pray for the worst to happen, and I don’t get involved in marriage. So help me, how to be? 😄

Whether good or bad, married life requires a very different kind of orientation. Initially, especially with children, it can and usually does come in the

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There is a girl I don’t know anything about at my university, but I always feel extremely attracted to her every time I see her. I don’t know why, because no other girl made me feel this way. Today in the morning, I saw her in a group of friends, but I didn’t feel confident enough to come up and introduce myself. šŸ’‘[…]

Situations and circumstances are generally not due to the Mother’s intervention or because of Her sanction. Things often come due to concealed desires that are

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Can you suggest some ways to keep yourself calm and focused on positive things when there is a feud, conflict, and quarrels among family members? I have tried to distance myself, but sometimes it’s difficult and directly related to my own family members, so I can’t help myself. šŸ˜”[…]

Inner detachment, outer knowing that all this including most human relationships are so transient (since based on the ego), desiring nothing and expecting nothing from

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My husband and i were married after being in relationship for 12 years. My family was against our marriage. So it took time. After 2 years of marriage I discovered he is in affair with another girl. We fought a lot and after taking a chance again we decided to have baby. Now we have a daughter, but his affair is continued. First our families were not knowing about it but now both the families know about it and he is not ready to live with us. He agrees in front of everyone that yes I have another woman in life and it’s because he was not satisfied with me 😢[conti]

Loyalty in marriage is rarer than we would want to believe. Especially men in all ages have been known to have more than one woman

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I notice that there are different traits that attract me in different people. I’ve been trying to observe the different elements in me that are being pulled by different sorts of friends and personalities. There is one side of me that gets pulled to people who are pure, refined, cultured, intellectually curious and open. But then there is another side of me that gets pulled to people with a lot of energy, confidence, strength, ambition, and dynamic energy⚔.

Yes a combination of intellectual refinement and vital ambition is generally not found because the full development of mental faculties require a certain mastery over

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Wanted to know how to build a harmonious relationship with parents. This is for me and my wife. We have different value system than our parents. Even different aspirations. But, we are also not detached, very much emotionally attached. We live in different cities, but whenever we visit, it causes a lot of disharmony. There is happiness to meet, spend time, build memories. But, there is an underlying disharmony. They have their strong opinions and they impose that constantly. 😄[conti]

Yes it is quite challenging partly due to the generation gap and partly due to a tectonic shift in the social order itself. Trying to

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