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Dear Alok Da, foremostly, Thank you for the platform. I have a question or may be an observation. Men (or boys) hold a soft corner for women who are Pretty and are (or act) naive and submissive (whereas at times they are manipulative and drawing undue benefits of men in their awe). But there is a visible difference in their behaviour and they act rudely and insensitively with women who are not so pretty, but bold and assertive. They have a presumed idea of her being a spoilt feminism brat and deserves to be dealt with roughly. Also they offer help to pretty women from their side with pleasure but choose to deny help even if the other kind of women ask them for help, taking it to be an unnecessary weight on them. Is it so important to be pretty and act gently (by dropping off boldness) just to win the collaboration of the counterpart especially at workplace😳?

May 10, 2025

There is possibly a truth in your observation except that it should not be generalised. If we look carefully it is not so much the

Should children dedicate their entire lives to their parents because they gave birth to them, raised them, and made many sacrifices? Some children even say, ‘My parents are like gods to me, if they asked me to jump into a well, I wouldn’t question it.’🤨

May 9, 2025

This is an absurd logic and contradicts the very core of Indian culture. The Gita, the Mahabharata, the Ramayana are all about dedicating our life

In yesterday’s question on marriage where parents emotionally blackmailing their child to get married you said it is extremely selfish act at its core but they also used to tell us like we are also becoming selfish by not fulfilling their wish. In such a scenario we really don’t have answer answer and such thoughts comes like are we also acting selfishly? Please guide whose demand is valid here😥?

May 8, 2025

There is a fundamental right given by the Divine to make our free choices and suffer the good or bad consequences. That is the whole

Dada, can psychic love 💓 be stablish with the one who holds very opposite point of view and believes in different school of thought. The person seems very beautiful at heart and respectful in nature. But when it comes to connect with thoughts and believes they seems to hold reasoning mind quite strongly. What should be my attitude in such senario and how to go about it. Please guide dada

May 7, 2025

Dada, can psychic love be stablish with the one who holds very opposite point of view and believes in different school of thought. The person

Should we feel guilty or pressured to get married or have a child just because our parents have health problems like heart conditions, diabetes, etc., and say things like, “What if we die without seeing this? Do it soon so we can witness it”😥?

May 6, 2025

This is nothing else but emotional blackmail and one should not concede to any such unreasonable demands that besides, is extremely selfish at its core.

In today’s time most of the things we can’t tell to our parents and closed one is it okay to hide the things or tell lie just to keep peace and harmony because you know they won’t understand or shall we just say the things as it is irrespective of whatever be the consequence is🤔?

May 5, 2025

One should tell the truth only to the Divine who knows us just as we are, who never judges and condemns but fully understands. But

I was once remembering the love I had felt for someone which did not lead to marriage because my father was against it and asked God that it was the most beautiful thing in my life why he had taken it away from me. Instantly i sensed a white light. But what was God trying to communicate to me at that time? Did that mean that he had other plans for me or something else😐?

May 5, 2025

White light means Divine Wisdom and Compassion indicating that whatever happened was best for you even though you could not understand it at that moment.

Is our purpose in life merely to please our parents by doing whatever they ask? When we don’t meet their expectations, they often say, “You have made us unhappy,” or “Because of you, we are suffering.” They emphasize ideas like, “You must keep your parents happy, you will never find happiness if you make them unhappy,” and regard parents as equivalent to gods. Even for someone who is not pursuing a spiritual life, is it necessary to always prioritize pleasing parents? When they don’t understand your path, your goal and say things like these, what should one do?

April 30, 2025

If the purpose of life was to please parents, elders or anyone else then the Gita would be meaningless. The purpose of life is not

What if in love someone take your selflessness as licentiousness to do whatever they want. What should be our attitude towards them?

April 30, 2025

One should not allow oneself to become a martyr. Life is much greater and vaster than human love. And while love is no doubt the

Is sex an essential part of a relationship? What happens when one partner feels a natural desire for physical intimacy, while the other is either not interested or doesn’t feel the same way? How should someone navigate this difference without compromising the emotional bond they share? Is it possible to maintain a fulfilling relationship when such a fundamental aspect of connection is missing or mismatched🤔?

April 26, 2025

Sex has little if anything to do with love. What love needs for its integral fulfilment is physical intimacy but that need not mean sex.

When two people love each other – what does it mean when it is said that they never leave each other ? I know that they always remain in each other’s hearts but what does it mean that they are always together no matter outer circumstances? Does thinking about the person keep the two close too💖?

April 21, 2025

We are always close to people whom we love from the depths even if they be physically far from us. So too we may be

You have beautifully answered on the question asked on The marriage like keeping God in the centre, meeting with life challenges with power of love, supporting each other and serving the divine purpose but these things which you said seems out of our scope. We lack surity, conviction and unclear about our goals. If we don’t have such beautiful ideals so is it wiser to avoid Marriage😐? Please guide.

April 20, 2025

They are not out of our scope. What is lacking is faith and courage, faith that nothing is impossible once something in us glimpses it

What is ones duty when some elder in place of parent continues to harass you😠 and put you down all the time and manipulates?

April 19, 2025

Is standing for one self with self respect against this elder person and stopping this happen is against dharma. If some one who’s supposed to

Why is it that many parents, especially those in their 50s, often glorify their past struggles, like working long hours just to earn dollars two hundred more, and keep reminding their children of the sacrifices they made to raise them? Why can’t they allow their children to recognize it naturally, instead of constantly seeking acknowledgment or credit and glorifying their struggles

April 18, 2025

Bringing up a child can be a very challenging task and sometimes it does require quite a bit of sacrifice. But the child has not

Is there any chance of confusions in genuine love💗?

April 18, 2025

Genuine love? That’s a rarety and a wonder. But even granted that it is there, confusions can always arise since human nature at large is

In one of your answers on marriage you said ” The essence of marriage is to keep God in the Centre while two people walk together hand in hand” what it mean to keep “God in the centre”🤨?

April 17, 2025

It means to keep the Aspiration for higher things like an Ideal to guide us together, supporting each other’s journey towards the Light and Truth

If your parents have not been responsible and taken care of you properly in your child hood why do they have so many useless expectations from their children when they grow up? And how to deal with this😠? Like they are still not there when you need them as their priorities are different even today, can you explain this from dharma point of view as well?

April 16, 2025

Dharma is about our individual conduct regardless of what others do or do not do. One thing is obvious that parents (as well as others)

My mother was and is still is biased towards my elder brother🫤. I do understand she is just a child of an environment that has been biased towards male child. Today I do understand it and to an extent dont hold her responsible, but still the lifelong hurt is there. But this question is more about her than me, has she created Karma? Can she resolve it in this lifetime? But for that I have to tell her that I have been hurt.

April 16, 2025

She has created karma by attachment and its inevitable result is suffering regardless of the nature of attachment. It is not good to judge people

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