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I am officially separated from my partner, but a part of me is struggling to let them go. Some of it stems from jealousy, the thought that they might find someone better. While I genuinely want them to be happy, there’s still a part of me holding on. How can I make peace with the idea that they may eventually find someone else and love that person 😪?

January 23, 2025

Let them find whoever they are destined to find but an abiding happiness through objects of desire is as rare, if not impossible in the

Does your boyfriend/girlfriend need to know everything about you and your life? Thing is, there are parts that my boyfriend won’t understand, and I can’t expect him to understand. But the love I have for the other person is true in its essence. I can’t give up either for the other, but it feels not beautiful to hide things. Equally, I don’t have the space to talk openly and if he knew it would break his heart. Is it better to just break off one relationship😥?

January 22, 2025

This is a tricky situation. To start with no one can ever understand the other person fully. In fact we ourselves cannot understand our own

In today’s world, it’s not uncommon for men to not have any friends. My mother says that most women have friends, but a lot of men have no friends. Why is this the case? What is the secret of friendship, and how can one make genuine friends🙂?

January 22, 2025

I think it is a question of temperament. There are men and women with an expansive vital nature, normally called as extroverts who easily make

I have a very weird relationship with my parents when it comes to their relationships with their parents. I don’t share a very happy relationship with my grand parents due to their behavior with me and my family earlier in my life. They do not fit in my circle of people and i have communicated to my parents clearly that i will only have a cordial relationship with them, in terms of only greeting when we meet. I prefer to keep my wife and kid away from the grand parents influence, however my father’s expectation on this is more and we have a tiff every time an incident happens. I have come to terms with this situation, however how do I communicate this to my parents clearly and again😠?

January 19, 2025

Communication is mainly meant to build bridges by expressing what is going on within oneself. The purpose is to help build a bond of deeper

I quit my job after 8 years. However there are still some aspects of the job for which I am responsible. The company has committed to me to remunerate for the work that I will do staying out of the system. However I think if they are irresponsible enough not to hire some one to replace me, why should I be involved. Moreover since the owners don’t care about their company and not hiring some one, why should I be emotionally involved and not move on. The only reason I agreed to do some work is my healthy relationship with my immediate boss. Please advise if I should continue helping them or not🙄.

January 18, 2025

Your decision to help or not to help should not be based on the owner’s approach towards the company but on factors personal to you.

Before coming to the Mother, I used to give my everything to my friends around me even at the expense of myself. However, I always have given my all to these friends, and yet when I needed them most, the majority were not there for me. The girl I considered my best friend literally does nothing for me, even on my birthday. For a while I thought that it was because she just didn’t know how to express but yet she does so much for my other friends. So clearly she can but she doesn’t want to for me. This broke my heart. I know expectations spoil love, and I need to purify it, but it’s still hurtful to see. Now some new friends are slowly coming into my life, but my closest friends in the past are those whom have hurt me quite hard a few times and now I just don’t even see the point in making new friends. For me, Mother, Sri Aurobindo and my sister give me all the friendship I need. But even in the Ashram, there were beautiful friendships. But now 😔

January 13, 2025

The urge to be alone, the dropping off of old friends, the inner distancing from old ties, the new preferences indicating progress in different dimensions

Many times I feel a burden with my relationship with my sibling, though he is an middle aged adult, my parents treat him like a child and they expect me to do so, our relationship is one sided one as I can hardly can rely on him, where else everything I am expected to do for him. Here I am not complaining as I don’t feel it’s right to constantly protect and spoil someone like a baby when I do not do that same things for my own children🙄, how can I manage this as all this hinders in my work and my purpose of life?

January 13, 2025

Relationships need to be nurtured from both the sides, otherwise it is not a relationship but a sacrifice. And sacrifice of this kind, done out

How can we avoid taking for granted someone who loves us and takes cares for our needs/wants/desires without asking for anything in return, we usually hurt them through our actions🙄?

January 12, 2025

Yes, that is quite a correct observation. Instead of returning love for love we end up becoming dependent upon it and taking it for …

I have faced failure in 4-5 relationships with women, and it always feels like, in the end, they find a reason to leave me. Despite my efforts to make things work, this recurring pattern has left me deeply hurt, alone, and emotionally broken. There are times when the loneliness becomes unbearable, and I can’t help but wonder if there’s something inherently wrong with me, if I’m destined to face these struggles in relationships, or if I am meant to remain single forever😪.

January 11, 2025

It is difficult to comment on personal aspects. But man-woman relationship is a science as well as an art, especially a capacity to feel the

As you have said many times in true love we used to give so how to practice this self-giving🤨?

January 9, 2025

It has to come naturally. If the urge is there to give then it is a sign that something true is there. As to how

How to know our love towards someone is based on something higher or just another vital Attraction🫤?

January 8, 2025

Vital Attraction is invariably accompanied by restlessness due to want and vital longing which is sooner or later followed by frustration, dissatisfaction…

Young people nowadays prefer casual relationships. Even serious relationships outside of marriage have the drawback that the partners are conditioned to be ready to withdraw any moment, undermining the basis of life-long relationships. I, as many people, don’t live in one place — I travel due to my work and studies. In such a context it is hard to be in a serious relationship that would lead to a marriage. The question is: how do people like myself who still have a desire to engage in romantic relationships find their way out of this dilemma😯?

January 7, 2025

I don’t think there can be a how to it. Love either happens or does not happen. As to the stability of a relationship, physical

I’ve been pondering on the question why you get attracted to certain people as friends. Somebody quoted mother as saying that it is because people recognise each other in the subtle physical. Can you explain this🤔?

January 6, 2025

The Mother spoke of affinities. There can be several levels of affinity that is instinctively and intuitively felt. There is psychic affinity that goes through

My Partner had cheated and now settled with another person what about me, it’s so unfair😪 …

January 5, 2025

Cheating is not a good word because it is based on the Christian idea of marriage as a permanent joining of man and a woman

Why relationships often end badly😪?

January 4, 2025

Love is the most powerful force in creation. Hence to hold and keep it requires a great strength and wideness and a capacity to give.

Is it really wrong to love and feel attached to two people at the same time? While I understand that, from a moral, social, and character perspective, it might be viewed negatively, how can one navigate such a situation😥?

January 2, 2025

To reduce the increasing complexity of life to a single simple rule book may be convenient for the small and narrow unprogressive mind of man

Is love at first sight real🙃? Or does real love have to develop over time?

December 30, 2024

Love at first sight is real. It is the heart’s intuitive recognition of your other self. But it is very difficult to sustain it. No

I have a boyfriend, but my mom doesn’t like him. Whenever I ask my mom why she doesn’t like him, she says it’s because he doesn’t show her respect. She had certain expectations from him, and he hasn’t met them. When I tell my boyfriend about this, he doesn’t want to listen. He says he can’t change how he feels from within. I feel stuck in between. My mom is telling me to break up with him because she thinks he’s not a good match. I have heavy pressure from both sides. Now, I don’t know what to do? Because of this situation, I can’t focus on my work properly, and I’m also having trouble concentrating on Mother’s book reading and other stuff😭.

December 29, 2024

Well friendship is one thing and marriage quite another. In friendship it is enough that two people respect and trust each other though even there,

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