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I have a boyfriend, but my mom doesn’t like him. Whenever I ask my mom why she doesn’t like him, she says it’s because he doesn’t show her respect. She had certain expectations from him, and he hasn’t met them. When I tell my boyfriend about this, he doesn’t want to listen. He says he can’t change how he feels from within. I feel stuck in between. My mom is telling me to break up with him because she thinks he’s not a good match. I have heavy pressure from both sides. Now, I don’t know what to do? Because of this situation, I can’t focus on my work properly, and I’m also having trouble concentrating on Mother’s book reading and other stuff😭.

Well friendship is one thing and marriage quite another. In friendship it is enough that two people respect and trust each other though even there,

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Me and my wife used to fight a lot on various things….we went through this phase for more than 4-5 years. Two major points of our fights was (1) me not being straightforward in my communication and actions (2) Me not being like her father. We went through therapy and a lot of hard times to get through that phase and now we are kind of over it. Now she blames me for being too straight forward and being too much like her dad. Please advice what should I do…..I can’t go back to being to old person I was😬?

Instead of trying to be what your wife or someone else would want you to be, try to discover what you are and want to

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In a recent Suicide case where man has demanded a huge maintenance from wife does it show the limitations of law where woman has all the rights for false allegations and exercise their rights in wrong manner? This is what it is said Marriage as an institution and Man nowdays are very afraid to become a part of such venture where is suppose women loose her interest or some other reason want to take divorce and ask for alimony and maintenance inspite of having job. Don’t to you think this marriage is more risky gamble for Man now since laws are also not very supportive for them? Is it better to avoid marriage😡?

Fear and suspicion are never a good counsel. Men and women both are known for low and cheap behaviors. This cannot change by law but

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I read two texts from the Mother’s writings regarding human love💗. (1) One was from CWM Vol 12 under the topic “The Four Austerities and The Four Liberations.”From “For one who has known love for the Divine, all other forms of love are obscure and too mixed with pettiness and egoism and darkness;” ….. to……”This concentration will culminate in an integral identification and will be instrumental to the supramental realisation upon earth.”

In both these the Mother is revealing to us the different stages of love. The love that is centred around the body and the vital,

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My ideology for Relationship and Marriage is very much changed after turning towards this path. I think this should be beautiful and harmonious and there should be some common ground between you and your partner. But friends and relatives outside usually say u need to do adjustment in marriage or relationship because nobody is perfect. I think if we need to do adjustment only or just for the sack of doing it then what is the sense i think its better to live single rather then doing adjustment😫.

Whatever may have been its high origin in the Vedic age when Rishis and Rishikas came together for a greater purpose, marriage has become today,

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