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Why relationships often end badly😪?

Love is the most powerful force in creation. Hence to hold and keep it requires a great strength and wideness and a capacity to give. But in most instances, especially human beings, turn love into a means of mutual pleasure and a togetherness centered around the satisfactions of the ego and the fulfilment of desires. Basically those who live predominantly in the vital nature or ‘love’ from that station invariably end up with fights, frustrations, or adjustments and all sorts of things that have nothing to do with love. In fact nobody teaches us what love is and most children pick it up from movies or parents or peers. In fact it is anything but love. And the true basis of any relationship should be love and not mutual satisfaction of ego and desires. The result is what we see. Human beings don’t know what is love and how to love. India had this knowledge and it was transmitted through stories of immortal love. But this new wave of ‘you can do whatever you feel like’, chase the rainbow of desires, has taken away the tapasya, the joyous sacrifice, the patience, the acceptance of people with their limitations. The consequence is that we can hardly put sustained effort in anything and of all things, love requires the greatest care in handling it. In simple words relationships need to be nurtured, nourished, developed and not automatically taken for granted. Love and relationships must also evolve as our consciousness evolves. Otherwise it falls backwards and collapses.

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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