And yes, I am thinking of changing company but that fear of change, and interview and with that comes some responsibility and they will consider me as an experienced employee, but I’m working on it. I want to work, but not able to find the passion or the work which I love doing, if I think of leaving corporate and try something and exploring, again my worry is, if I have no job, it might become challenging for me to find a guy, as now a days everyone wants a working girl.
It should be like I work,Β I earn and I’m happy and content with it and with that I get to enjoy my life with the loved ones, I want to visit France and see Mother’s childhood place and many more do to list I have, but again money is needed, my parents are Obviously not dependent on me, but still I have in me that I should have my own earned money. So is it my scarcity mindset,or low self esteem? Or some thoughts which I strongly have in my subconscious mind? And how to find out that which is that job or work which I really love doing? And feel content and not tired even if I overwork?
Please help me with some tips so that I can apply and learn to manage the situations well.
There are number of presumptions about money and life which need to be set right. As you can already see, money can buy you neither happiness, nor peace nor health nor love nor give any meaning or purpose to life. It can give you some material comfort but ask yourself how much comfort will make you comfortable? It can take you places but do these places make us happy and for how long? May be you will appreciate the material beauty of a garden or a beach or a palace or a building for an hour or two but is it worth throwing away one’s life as a sacrifice to the world of money? Perhaps a good looking guy with a fat salary will marry you but is that what you want, to be bought over by a man or buy him with your money even if there is no love? Is human life meant only for these material comforts and travel and family? If this is so then of course, like the average person one should join the Corporate ladder and learn the hard way that the race for money has no winners. All are losers because they pay a very heavy price for gathering outer riches often at the expense of inner riches. One loses on the joy of reading a beautiful book, feeling happy in the heart and healthy in the body. One loses on love (since there is little time left), one loses the joy of sitting quietly in solitude, the joy that comes by pursuing the work one loves doing, the joy of simply taking a stroll along the countryside, or gazing at the sky or flowers like a child, the joy of discovering the meaning and purpose of life, the joy of cooking for someone you care for. The pursuit of money robs us of all these things. We lose friends as we have little time and energy. Besides the ones we have are generally fake because they are drawn not to us but to the wealth we have.
I am not saying one should not earn enough for a decent living. But to make it a goal and believe that if one has money one can get everything else and lead a happy life. Well if that was so then the rich would be the happiest and the healthiest people. It is not so. Wealthy people are often quite fearful and unhappy inside. So keep your goals clear. Money is needed but don’t make your life and happiness depend upon it. Certainly 12 hours of work in a corporate grind mill is not a good thing. But the corporate world is like that, though things are changing now. If I was there in your place i would look for a company where the atmosphere is good and the work is of the kind that I enjoy doing. Or perhaps join a start up and grow with it through the challenges even if I am not paid so well. One must enjoy the work one does for then 12 hours mean nothing. Don’t work for money. Do the work that gives you joy even if it pays you little less.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
