Indeed that is best though it does not automatically ensure a smooth and harmonious relationship. This is so because even after turning to the same path, the ego and the desire-self chase us for a long time leading to rubbing and friction common to all relationships. Besides even when the core aspiration is the same, there may not be enough points of affinity in nature. The two may be in different stages of inner evolution with different temperament leading to disconnect. Marriage, even at its best, remains a blind game. The similarity of core aspiration no doubt helps in the sense that they at least do not impede each other’s journey at some fundamental level. But the rest of the issues of relationship do not automatically get sorted out and the hard work needed to build a harmonious togetherness is still required. There are in fact no short cuts to a happily married life.
I am still not sure how to deal with my libido. As a young male, I occasionally experience extremely strong sexual desire. I am not in a relationship, I don’t masturbate or watch porn. I tried following some of your advice, such as exercise, breathing, creative expression, etc. It helped me enormously. But still there are times in which I just get completely submerged in lustful thoughts and overpowering desires. During such times I cannot sleep in the night and just crave sex intensely. When such states come, my mind starts telling me that I should just find somebody with whom I could have regular sex so that I don’t feel this agony😟, [conti]
August 30, 2025
What helps handling these strong sexual impulses is to stay as busy as one can be, especially with a work that can be done in the Mother’s service. The other thing is to do…
