Indeed that is best though it does not automatically ensure a smooth and harmonious relationship. This is so because even after turning to the same path, the ego and the desire-self chase us for a long time leading to rubbing and friction common to all relationships. Besides even when the core aspiration is the same, there may not be enough points of affinity in nature. The two may be in different stages of inner evolution with different temperament leading to disconnect. Marriage, even at its best, remains a blind game. The similarity of core aspiration no doubt helps in the sense that they at least do not impede each other’s journey at some fundamental level. But the rest of the issues of relationship do not automatically get sorted out and the hard work needed to build a harmonious togetherness is still required. There are in fact no short cuts to a happily married life.
I remember once reading in Sri Aurobindo’s commentary on the Isha Upanishad that one cannot become a Brahmin without first becoming a Kshatriya. I believe that I never had the Kshatriya element developed sufficiently within me, and it has always been a source of embarrassment and insecurity for me as a man. 💪🙏🏻🪷[…]
September 15, 2026
He said both are needed. But these are things ingrained within us. Brahmin and Kshatriya are not soul states, inner innate temperaments and not so much of outer actions. Nevertheless everything can be developed by practice. By taking the challenges of life, through vigorous physical exercises, by praying for strength, by reading …
