One should see where is this need coming from, especially because a mismatch of hopes, ideals and expectations are likely to lead to disappointment and frustration sooner or later. The disappointment does not show up initially in the rush of emotions but with passage of time the deeper truths, hidden motives and the different aspects of personality begin to show up. So unless there is a basic attunement or strong affinity, a fundamental alignment of the goals it may end up with an unhappy feeling. Whether to avoid or not is one’s choice but whatever one does, one should do it consciously. Love and attraction can co-exist but love from one side and only or mainly attraction from the other side can at best be something passing and fleeting, a temporary inn for the vital nature in man, not the heart’s resting ground.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
