People are what they are because of various reasons. We cannot change them. What is important is how should we deal with them. With regard to controlling others we can differentiate between three types of human behavior.
First are those who like to push and control others because they have a strong vital ego. It is difficult to communicate meaningfully with such people. The best way to deal with them is to ignore them as they learn only through the hard way that life flourishes best when we allow each one their time and freedom and space to grow. Indifference is the best response one can give to them though it is not always practicable especially if they are in charge of your work.
The second type have a strong mental ego with a rigid mindset and fixed opinions. One can try to discuss with them and reason out issues.
The third are understanding in nature and believe in balance and harmony. These are the best but few. It is good if one has a friend like that. If there is someone of this nature around you, then heed their advise.
It is also good to learn to be a little assertive and speak out what you honestly feel. There is a tact in communicating your feelings without hurting others. With practice we can develop it. Whenever you feel overwhelmed practice calling the Mother and learn to draw Her Peace and build a zone of Her Protection around you.
Affectionately,
Alok da.
