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Recently I had a breakup with my fiancee and he had insulted me in a very bad and wrong manner. How to deal with this situation. ? I am also not able to sleep properly. Kindly help me.

A person who insults a loved one is certainly not worth shedding tears for. Mutual respect is one of the most important elements of a healthy relationship. Though certain amount of pain is natural due to attachment yet if you step back and look at it a little dispassionately you have only to thank the Grace for forcibly pulling you out of a relationship that would have only led to an increasing pain and suffering in the long run.

Instead of brooding over what has happened it will be best to keep yourself busy with work. Go also for vigorous physical exercises and workout. If possible, take a break and spend some time in retreat in a place that is quiet and full of spiritual vibrations. Write a diary in the form of letters to God in whatever form you believe in. Give a little time and everything will settle down and you will be able to see that whatever happened was indeed for good.

Affectionately,

Alok da.

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