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How does one let go of things from the past😫? Things that didn’t work out the way we would have ā€œhopedā€, people we didn’t get to know well that maybe we wanted to, or regrets about actions that we would have taken differently today?And how does one stop daydreams or indulging in fantasies that do not have any basis? I’m stuck on an idea of someone from the past and cannot get them out of my head. I offer my feelings up to the Mother and just let it be… is that the right approach?

This question is inspired by a ā€œlongā€ story with a lot of different thoughts that I’m not sure would be the best use of this space.. but in short…

First thing that we need to understand is that the ‘mistakes’ that happened and yet may happen are not because there is something bad in us. They happen because we lead life ignorantly blindly, almost unconsciously. Our education system teaches us about almost everything that happens outside us but nothing about what is going on inside us. We learn all about handling gadgets but very little about handling ourselves. What we call as mistakes are therefore part of a giant learning curve of which all of us are a part in different degrees and stages. It is always good to remember this so that we can keep growing and progressing. And it is here that we get the key to let go of the past. In a way it does not leave us and repeats itself with slightly changed settings until we have learnt the lessons it came to teach us.

The best way therefore is to take a hard look at ourselves, learn what we need to learn and then move forward. For it is only by moving towards the future that we can truly get rid of the past. So here again we need to be clear about our goals and then take the steps needed to move towards our own unique goal and the journey through which destiny is leading us.

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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