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How should I deal with fighting for the truth while being selfless. Should I focus on assertiveness while giving my point and not letting the ego come in front. What happens is that the other person always tries to prove himself / herself right by being angry or being loud which I cant do. How should I confront such people while surrendering😥?

Truth is very difficult to know, even more difficult than understanding its foster child Justice. It is hidden within layers after layers and while it is relatively easier to see its darker coats, it is often much more difficult to recognise the brighter curtains of goodness, virtue, righteousness which are also its covers and not the truth itself. That is before we plunge into the great battle of life, it is important to practice the Yoga of the Gita, especially equanimity, inner peace, faith in the Divine, surrender to the Divine, inner Remembrance of the Divine, nishkama karma, clearing from the heart all doubts, anger, hate and egoism……and then fight, assertively if such be the need or the cause but without getting disturbed or excited about the results. One should say and do what one feels deeply inspired to say or do but should not keep pushing it under the influence of vital egoism seeking for instant success. Whether to succeed or fail should be left entirely in God’s hands. 

As to points of views, there are always many, each right and wrong depending upon where we are looking at it from. To have a comprehensive view is extremely rare. So best is to say what you have to say but avoid getting into animated discussions and debates as nobody changes through them. Often people end up hardening their stance further. The only place where active pushing back is required when an individual viewpoint is likely to become dangerous to others or when a deliberate distortion and false narrative is being used to poison the society at large. But even here it is best done by presenting a counter narrative to the people leaving them to choose rather than getting into a verbal duel to put down the proponent of a certain viewpoint. 

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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