It is good that you didn’t go as the door once opened tends to draw in the forces that push us more and more until either we get destabilised or else the vital gets exhausted and turns away towards other faces and forms. There is the danger of us becoming a toy of these forces then whose consequences can sometimes be quite disastrous.
However the solution will not come by getting into inner conflicts with the vital. A vital that is aroused can become nasty like a wild tigress. Instead give it a direction and purpose by staying busy and doing exercises. Remind yourself that as he is not keen to take the relationship to its logical conclusion, it has no future. If still you must meet ask him to come. It won’t be wise for you to go to him in another city.
This is not so much a dual personality. To feel love for someone and want to be loved are human and natural. But even there it is good to let reason keep a watch and control over the vital until the right person comes into your life shares your aspiration and supports it.
Affectionately
Alok Da
