AT THE FEET OF THE MOTHER
Ask Alok da

I never say anything to anyone, I just don’t have the courage. My in-laws sometimes insult me but I cannot answer anything back. I just freeze and the other day they were pressuring my daughter for something they should not and still I could not speak up, I feel that I am letting my daughter down. 

Courage is something to be cultivated. One should not allow oneself to be treated like a football or be at the mercy of other’s will.

Self-respect is a healthy thing unless it becomes excessive and one starts seeing insult where there is only a strongly worded advise that elders often tend to give.

However your actions will become a template for your daughter and fears can get transmitted to them from parents. Talk to your husband to especially ensure that all this does not happen in front of the child. 

Affectionately,

Alok da.

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