You said once in a talk that generally in path of Yoga we are alone .. i mean the detachment has to be there and later in one of the talk you were saying The Mother has told that as partners we can coincide and make our goal one that is to be in the Divine path or attain the Divine.🎈🕊️🪷✨🌊

But u see once u have that true vision or even the opening for a while even you would agree how things change how our perception changes towards everything in each and every step you would want to be the way the Divine wants us to be.. but on the contrary other person is not on same page .. still logic exists and society, societal norms n conditions so how do we meet or make our aim as one ?

And moreover see in families lot of customs to be followed rituals to be made while all these actually do not imply when one truly wants to follow Yoga.. isn’t it?

Family relatives all these i want to avoid.. are these my excuses to not meet people or are these genuine?

I donot understand..

and you see you must agree to this ki Prabhu samajh mai nehi atey hain.. woh emotions and feel hota hai u cannot explain.. things turn out to be unexpectedly beautiful but if one tries to apply logic toh phir toh gaya.

But how will one who hasn’t felt this understand ? I have known my side of family my mother brother since childhood we know the Mother for sure but still they live as per societal standards.. and I have lot of contradictory visions now though 

Sometimes i feel may be its my ego or arrogance that is not letting me listen to others or kya hai pata nahi.. ghar pe bahat expectations rehti hai sabko khus rakho unke haan mai haan bharo all these and ofcourse if u don’t follow then u r the culprit.. Please correct me if I am wrong Dada..

Please guide me

If it is ego, it is a better ego than the other form of ego wherein one is busy fulfilling other’s expectations. One does not get rid of the ego by living to make other’s happy or by becoming a martyr at the altar of other people’s ego and desires. Such actions do good to neither. Ego is to be sacrificed at the  altar of the Divine and nobody else. Besides to live to please someone or to flatter their vanity or give sanction to their stupidity by bowing down to their unreasonable demands only perpetuates the reign of falsehood and ignorance. It is a delusion that anyone can make anyone else happy. 

One should live according to one’s own highest ideals, listen to the inmost heart, act under the impulsion of the deepest truth within you. Neither try to please yourself nor others. Please the Divine alone. That is the path of Truth shown by the great ones.

This does not mean getting angry at others or having a showdown. All that is needed to be firm and clear without any hate or anger. Live by the deepest truth that you feel within offering it to the Mother. That is the highest way. 

Affectionately,

Alok Da

Follow up question:

can you also please guide me on the first part of my question please?

Once one is touched by the seeking for the Divine then what does it matter whether one is alone or in company. How does it matter whether society, people, family or we ourselves understand the nature of our seeking. The Divine is not some small little toy machine to fit into our limited understanding or conform to our ideas of what He should be or should not be. That is why only humble and simple hearts can approach Him not arrogant and complicated minds. Of course understanding comes but not through mental analysis but by growing into the likeness of the Divine. As to family, customs etc, if one is still in this social stage and tied to traditions then the Divine is a far cry. It means one is not yet ready for the Divine. If we value these things then we are yet not ready to seek the Divine who is vast and infinite, beyond all that we can conceive and imagine. We should not tie the Divine to out smallness, rather liberate ourselves into His wideness.

Affectionately,

Alok Da