If such is the case then marraige is a facade and unlikely to be a help for the progress of either partner. A commonality of aim and affinity of temperament, at least on major issues is necessary for a healthy and happy marraige. The best possibility, if they want to continue with the marraige, is to give each other freedom to continue along the path each one wants to while fostering the basic love and care between the two partners who are living together. But if the two cannot agree on this arrangement then there are only one of the two options left. Either both separate because there is anyway no inner alignment or else the person seeking for the spiritual goal practices inner detachment and equanimity while going about one’s life remembering the true aim and objective. It means one does not listen to all kinds of advices that are not conducive and even harmful for one’s spiritual progress but equally does not engage in fights and quarrels trying to convince the partner of what each one wants. Of all things, fights and quarrels are the worst way to live together. It degrades and debases the consciousness and generates ill will in the environment.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
