There are no such exact answers to exact questions, like options one or two. In fact, I could equally say none of the above or both of the above. Neither life nor yoga can be approached by a rigid mind that wants to hear what it has already sort of decided. Yoga is not done with mental ideas or a vital will. The first thing is to open psychically to The Mother and surrender to Her. All the rest comes later. Here is another passage from The Mother regarding the true aspiration and attitude we must keep.
‘The best one can do is not to take sides, not to have preconceived ideas or principles—oh! The moral principles, the set rules of conduct, what one must do and what one must not and the preconceived ideas from the moral point of view, from the point of view of progress, and all the social and mental conventions… no worse obstacle than that. There are people, I know people who have lost decades in surmounting one such mental construction!… If one can be like that, open—truly open in a simplicity, well, the simplicity that knows that it is ignorant—like that (gesture upward, of self-abandon), ready to receive whatever comes. Then something can happen.
And naturally, the thirst for progress, the thirst for knowledge, the thirst for transformation and, above all, the thirst for Love and Truth—if one keeps that, one goes quicker. Truly a thirst, a need, a need.
All the rest has no importance; it is that one has need of.
To cling to something one believes that one knows, to cling to something that one feels, to cling to something that one loves, to cling to one’s habits, to cling to one’s so—called needs, to cling to the world as it is, it is that which binds you. You must undo all that, one thing after another. Undo all the ties. And it has been said thousands of times and people continue to do the same thing…. Even they who are most eloquent and preach that to others, do c-l-i-n-g—they cling to their way of seeing, their way of feeling, their habit of progress, which seems for them the only one.
No more bonds—free, free. Always ready to change everything, except one thing: to aspire, this thirst.’
(Ref. https://incarnateword.in/cwm/11/7-october-1964#p24)
Affectionately,
Alok Da
