Are friendships necessary - I feel my friends are slightly offensive - put me down - don’t want to acknowledge me for me - I used to be very available before ! Listen to their every problem try solve it. Now I don’t. It’s negative. Draining. 🧑‍🤝‍🧑💔💥🖤

I can’t really have intellectual convos with them. Stuck on money and other social petty things. I’m more than just a nice person. Tired…

Nothing is necessary in life. It is a question of temperament. Some like to have friends, others prefer to be alone. But whether one has friends or not one should find the art of being inwardly happy. That comes when we do not have unnecessary expectations from people. More than listening or helping one should radiate happiness and joy around. Bitterness and complaints help neither ourselves nor others.

Affectionatley,

Alok Da

When Sri Krishna played Raas Leela with Gopis who were married and had left their husbands and children, He was hardly 10 years old. How could they be roused by Krishna’s beauty with romantic feelings towards a child who is like their son, if not like a younger brother? 🪈🙏🏻 […]

October 9, 2026

The Bhagawat Purana is written by a Rishi no less than the calibre of Vyasa. The entire Purana is profound in its depth, spiritual and occult understanding. To take it literally is to rob it of its real sense. The gopa and gopis are the divine souls who came down with Sri Krishna to open the path of bhakti, of utter abandonment and surrender to the Divine for man to follow…

I am wondering if you have anything to say on the order of practice. And in the relation to quite detailed descriptions of processes, with a certain order and division, we may see this in Sri Aurobindo’s writing on the Sapta Chatusthaya, and in the Mother’s sometimes very simple quotes on simply remaining open to her. 📖🙏🏻[…]

October 9, 2026

The Saptachatustya described in the Records of Yoga is the program given to Sri Aurobindo as part of his personal sadhana.

Its general version applicable for every sadhaka has been described in The Synthesis of Yoga in the book on the yoga of self-perfection…

I understand that we should live in the present moment and remain open to the Divine Will. However, I find it difficult because I do not really enjoy the work I am presently doing. How can I remain peaceful, sincere, and open to the Divine while being fully present in a work that I do not enjoy? 🌱🙏🏻

October 9, 2026

The Gita gives us the complete answer to this problem.

First thing is to take up an activity that is in line with your swabhava, your innate temperament. If one does not know that then one should study oneself, one’s interests, tendencies, natural qualities and capacities and try to see how they can be best put to use in the work you are doing…

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Are friendships necessary – I feel my friends are slightly offensive – put me down – don’t want to acknowledge me for me – I used to be very available before ! Listen to their every problem try solve it. Now I don’t. It’s negative. Draining. 🧑‍🤝‍🧑💔💥🖤

Keep cribbing about their marital problems. Not happy in life. Does sharing really help. I feel now I only want them in my life to attend my wedding. For public appearance and approval. Is crazy.

I can’t really have intellectual convos with them. Stuck on money and other social petty things. I’m more than just a nice person. Tired…

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When Sri Krishna played Raas Leela with Gopis who were married and had left their husbands and children, He was hardly 10 years old. How could they be roused by Krishna’s beauty with romantic feelings towards a child who is like their son, if not like a younger brother? 🪈🙏🏻 […]