But since some time I have been feeling it like a burden and plus because of me doing everything my 2 sisters did not share any of those responsibilities. So now I have started to leave some of them, to divide the work, but then on the other side I also feel a guilt that am I doing anything unfair to my mother and father. 👨👩👧👦🌳🌲🪺
There is no question of guilt as all the children should look after the parents equally when they need them. However in reality very often it does happen that the onus of responsibility falls upon the one who is most capable and responsible. This does become taxing at some point and it is a good idea to share it between the siblings. It is also a good opportunity for the parents to interact closer with all the children. So it is perfectly fine that you three sisters share the service of the parents as this is how it should be. It is also good that instead of sharing different days you have decided to share different works so that there is consistency. This is the main thing that stresses the elderly. They find it difficult to adapt to frequent changes and it helps to have consistency in what each one is doing. Naturally it will be differently done by each one as people are different. Wanting your sister to look after the parents as you would do is not the right way to go about. Let each of you bring your own flavour and unique touch and let your parents feel the love and care of all their daughters rather than only one. Besides it will give you the much needed time for your own progress which is an important part of our life. Service of parents is fine but our first responsibility is to fulfil the purpose of our life, to realise the goal of our existence.
Affectioantely,
Alok Da
