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I have too much pressure from my in-laws to attend social functions and attend to other family responsibilities. The kids suffer as I have to leave them to attend these things. Please advise what to do. 👵🏻🙅🏻‍♀️🍂

One line of advice is: do not succumb to social pressures. It is not only about the harm these things do to the child but also to oneself. It is necessary to develop one’s individuality fully by making one’s choices.

Initially, the parents and friends may try to pull but later they will respect you for the integrity displayed and for standing by your choices.

Affectionately,

Alok da.

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