One of my elderly friends went through a tough surgery and to see her struggle is becoming a bit difficult for me. As of now, I have remained calm and offered her pain to sweet Maa. This is all I know.
One should turn the focus away from the physical body and focus more on the inner being and the soul. One should remind oneself and the person that life is a continuous stream and death and suffering are masks and passing incidents.
Sitting with the person one should just hold hand and think of Her and invoke Her Peace and Grace and Love rather than talk about the body and physical condition.
And then to quietly offer the person and their suffering at Her Feet.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
