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My niece is in Class-9th. She is facing some problems in her class. Students ignore her in the class. She is good at studies. They say she has an attitude. She says that she feels alone in the class, especially during recess. 🏫🤝🌼[…]

Because of such an atmosphere in her class, she is facing health problems like migraine, anxiety. Also, deterioration in performance with respect to studies. Please guide how to tackle this problem?

Children who are either above or below the average face this isolation in the class. It is more so if the child is inwardly more developed, as your niece is. Instead of trying to change to find friends, she should learn to accept herself as she is and wait till she discovers someone who shares her tastes and temperament. She will find a few as she grows up. Meanwhile, someone in the family, her mother or you yourself, could be to her as a friend instead of the traditional role of an elder. Actually, you would be the best person for her to grow friends with. It is a question of developing a rapport through sharing and encouraging her to actively communicate with you. Basically, she needs someone to share her feelings with her, someone who could do so unconditionally and without judging. Many, if not all, exceptional children feel lonely these days for similar reasons. Another good way to counter this used to be to forge a friendly relation with God, especially Sri Krishna or Hanuman ji. It brings the sense of being cared and protected. They should be taught to share everything with whatever aspect of God they naturally relate with. 

Her migraine, anxieties, etc are due to hypersensitivity of nerves. Teach her some simple nadi shuddhi pranayama and see if she can play some racquet game somewhere in the evening. She can learn some dancing, online if you wish. Similarly, music, painting and other art forms are very good remedies for quietening the nerves. This will help a lot in stabilising the nervous system and prevent these attacks. 

Affectionately 

Alok da

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