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I understand your point, but I have learned it the very hard way, Alok da, that Relations can’t just be formed by giving love. It indeed spoils them, making them incapable of thinking about where they can show love and make some effort towards the Relationship. 💖😣🥀[…]

People tend to take you for granted. People forget what we did and keep demanding from us and we get drained in the process. Yes, Divine Love is the Truth and Pure, but human relationships can’t be formed only on giving; it spoils them. We need to express our discontent or disappointment with others. Else you become a doormat.

There is nothing rude in your expression and I fully understand your pain at being cheated upon.

Nothing wrong with expressing freely and frankly. But to turn the heart into a hearth of hate, jealousy, anger and especially suspicion. It doesn’t make people realise anything. It only provides them with the justification to move away further. Certainly, one should never let oneself be treated as a doormat. But if such be the case, then it is best to move out of a relationship rather than drag both oneself and the other person into the mud and mire of frustration and bitterness. But yes, of course, each person has to find the way through one’s nature. 

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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