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Sri Aurobindo writes in the Life Divine on the nature of suffering and endurance: Since the nature of suffering is a failure of the conscious-force in us to meet the shocks of existence and a consequent shrinking and contraction and its root is an inequality of that receptive and possessing force due to our self-limitation by egoism consequent on the ignorance of our true Self🤨, …

August 29, 2025

Sri Aurobindo describes this in much greater detail in The Synthesis of Yoga. At physical level it implies endurance of physical pleasure and pain and

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What does Mother and Sri Aurobindo think about same-sex love/marriage🧑‍🤝‍🧑? I was wondering because I have a crush on a woman and at this point I don’t know at all if she has one on me too or just wants to be friends, but she has asked to hangout and recently been acknowledging my existence more. In past, I would reach out occasionally and we never actually hung out, but she would be kind and it could very well be that I am making up everything in my head way too soon and maybe she is just merely thinking of me as a friend. I looked up the meaning of her name out of curiosity and discovered it has the exact same meaning as mine. I don’t know what to think of that but my brain immediately thinks it means we are meant to be together or something… I just wonder because my mind likes to take an idea and run far with it so now I am in a fantasizing world. Obviously I am [conti]

August 27, 2025

I think it is important to separate the chaff from the wheat. There is nothing wrong in hanging out or being friends even bestest of

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How can I guide and support my younger sibling during his college placement season? While many of his peers are already getting placed in companies, my sibling is taking a bit longer. Sometimes this makes him feel discouraged because of peer pressure and the competitive environment. How should I motivate him, help him stay confident, and guide him in improving his preparation without losing hope🤔?

August 26, 2025

Your understanding and being with him is itself a big support. We may not be always able to change outer circumstances the way we wish

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Yesterday I had a dream that I and my two friends who were practicing yoga, all three of us went to Gurudev and bowed down at his feet, after that we left. As soon as we were about to go down the stairs, I looked at Gurudev and shouted loudly that I want to surrender completely, how should I do it, then he called me back and then he took me to the room, there he stood behind me and lifted me from behind and put his chin on my spine and I screamed 😱from within, then he brought me down again and said that your system was not aligned for super conscious power, then he had some black device, he took a photo from it and tried to show it to me, but it did not come in it, then he brought a book in his hand and taught me two things in it, the first was “Guru Govind Do Khade Kha Ke Lagi Pahi” and the second was “Those who follow the orders of others go backwards”. Then I said should I read that book, then he wrote on the top of that book 16th (meaning of which I did not understand). After that I said that I get orders during meditation, understand. I don’t know which is right and which is wrong, so he said pray, so I said I will hand it over to you, before doing that he said yes, then he bowed down at his feet and started to leave, I said it is dark, should I switch on the light of the room, but he refused, after that when I started to leave there were a lot of shoes lying there and I was in a hurry, my friends were waiting for me, where are my shoes, but I was not able to find my shoes. Apart from this, when I was with Gurudev, even then I felt inside me that he is waiting for me outside. And after waking up in the morning I was feeling that presence. What can be the meaning of this Dada?

August 26, 2025

By guru ji are you referring to Sri Aurobindo? It is quite an unlikely way of his relating. I think you should read Sri Aurobindo

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My parents are asking me to start thinking about finding a man to date and eventually marry. They are nudging me to meet men. I was recently talking to one guy that I met while on a run. He stopped me and asked for my number and based on looks I gave it to him. We started to go running together and when I would go study on weekends he would join me. He is 4 years younger and now went back to college which is about 4 hours away so we were talking over text and phone, but today, on a call he asked me some questions about the future and I told him the situation with my parents about them wanting me to find a husband and the other factor which is race / ethnicity. The one I was talking to is of African and Mexican descent and I figured even though my parents are accepting, that it would cause some issues which I don’t want to deal with. Despite us getting along so well and him treating me like a princess, when I told him today he got very upset about it. Now I am not feeling inclined to reach back out and fight for it because he’s pretty upset and it feels pointless since I’ve made up my mind that I will listen to my parents / find an Indian man for them, but I also wonder if I made a mistake because I was afraid of family reactions and considering I did have feelings for him😥 [conti]

August 24, 2025

I understand your situation. But you must remove certain misconceptions about marraige. There are no ready made partners. Relationships have to be built and it

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A couple of weeks ago I asked you about the problem of a long distance relationship. You encouraged me to continue it as it would give a chance of refining the relationship to a higher level without the bondage of marriage. Still, at this stage it feels like work, and there is little satisfaction that I feel. I realised we are so different that we have few things to talk about when we are not physically present with each other. Even other people told me that it’s obvious that I’m not in love with the girl, and if I was I wouldn’t be speaking in this way. It is mostly my idealism that made me commit to her in this way, because I couldn’t bear the thought of hurting her😥

August 23, 2025

It is obvious that one should not engage in a relationship if one is not happy about it or doesn’t feel love. There is nothing

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