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We should have courage for ourselves first; then it will radiate and be transmitted to others, especially children. The most important thing to remember is

What to tell a child when he asks, “Why I cannot see God”?

August 14, 2024

God is the formless essence of everything. He has brought the world out of Himself and built the roads of mind and senses to experience

How to wake children up from their sleep as I feel my son is in such deep sleep in the morning but I have to wake him up for school and if I call him softly he does not even budge then I touch him softly still he does not move so then I have to shake him a bit, but that I don’t like it can there be another way to wake him up?

August 7, 2024

Try touching him behind the ears which is a bit sensitive area. You can also try whispering his name little loudly in his ears.

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Each time my son competes, I feel overwhelming anxiety and discomfort about the results. How can I handle my own anxiety and ensure that it doesn’t affect him?

July 30, 2024

Well it is due to an excessive attachment that is afraid about losing anything (and includes the loved ones as part and extensions of oneself)

What is the age to talk to my son about man-woman relationship and sex and how to tell them?

July 30, 2024

Generally these things should be discussed as they enter adolescence. The word sex should be replaced by attraction between boy and girl and how its

Till what age can a boy change clothes in front of his mother? My son is 10 and half years old and I think now he should start having some privacy but he does not listen and he is very comfortable bathing, changing in front of me. What should be the age?

July 28, 2024

The need for privacy comes strongly with onset of adolescence which is generally around 12 to 14 years of age. As biological and hormonal changes

My son asked me why God is so cruel? because he made so much suffering. I don’t know what to tell him.

July 20, 2024

God is not cruel but we misread His intentions and actions just as a child misreads his parents firmness or teachers strictness which is sometimes

How not to form bad habits?

July 10, 2024

First of all we should watch over our thoughts. Whatever we think often we tend to do it. What we do we tend to repeat

My problem is that I want to trust on my kids but some outer circumstances and views I can’t trust on him. So what practice I should do to regrading these trust issues?

July 4, 2024

Whether we can have trust on the children or not we have to keep a watch over them till they grow up into responsible adults.

My daughter demands that we buy branded expensive clothes for her just like her friends wear. We cannot afford it but then I worry she will look the odd one out and girls will not include her in their group.

July 2, 2024

Explain to her through stories and examples that the value of a human being does not depend on how she looks or the clothes one

My children are home all day due to vacations, staff is also less and sometimes zero. Then they will make a mess, want to do painting and play with clay and I know I should let them do all this but later it gets so hard on me and when I ask then to help they will never help in clean up so all day I am irritated and tired. Why I have so much dependency on staff?

June 30, 2024

Dependency on staff is fine but it is better to explain and train the children to help clean up after they have played. It is

My son just does not listen to anyone. I am thinking of sending him to a hostel, which would only set him straight. Is there any other option? 🏦🧑🏼‍🏫🥸🍵

June 19, 2024

There are few advantages in a hostel such as enforced discipline. It also helps if there is constant fight in the house and the general

When my son was younger, if I scolded he would listen then after sometime scolding did not work. Then I would give him a slap or two now he has become so stubborn that a good beating also does not work. I don’t know how to discipline him now?

June 19, 2024

Hitting a child is an absolute No-no. It shows lack of control and hence children lose respect for their parents. It only instils fear and

My 11 year old is very hyper, he just does not sit in one place, I get tired as I never get to rest or sit at peace. What to do?

June 19, 2024

He is probably endowed with extra bursts of vital energy that needs to be channelised in proper direction. Such children need to be

My daughter cannot lose in a game, if she loses she gets upset and cries, how many times I have explained that’s OK but still she is very competitive, how to help her?

June 19, 2024

A little bit of healthy spirit of competition does help children as they live largely in the vital. What she should be taught is that

Some kids talk about money brands and expensive vacations as a teacher I do not know what to tell them and how to handle them?

June 19, 2024

We need to tell them whether they want to live for these small little pleasures or for larger goals, whether we want to be just

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