Ramakrishna Paramhansa, Maa Sharda.. I’m not sure I’m saying the right things or making the right comparisons – but in essence I feel if two people can really complement each other in their souls and energies – mental view of life – helps.
Atleast easier to work in the world. Difficult to do everything by urself. A true thing that enhances, uplifts, supports, brings happiness understands.
No doubt about it. If one finds the complimentary being or the shakti of the person, life becomes not only happy but smoother. It is how the ancient Rishis organised their Ashrams and even advised about marriage in this way, as we find in the beautiful Indian rituals and mantras for marriage. The Mother herself describes the ideal of marriage as below.
‘To unite your physical lives, your material interests, to become partners in order to face together the difficulties and successes, the defeats and victories of life—that is the very foundation of marriage, but you already know that it is not enough.
To be united in your sensations, to have the same aesthetic tastes and enjoyments, to be moved in common by the same things, one through the other and one for the other—that is good, that is necessary, but it is not enough.
To be one in your deeper feelings, to keep a mutual affection and tenderness that never vary in spite of all the blows of life and can withstand every weariness and irritation and disappointment, to be always and on every occasion happy, extremely happy, to be together, to find in every circumstance tranquillity, peace and joy in each other—that is good, that is very good, that is indispensable, but it is not enough.
To unite your minds, to harmonise your thoughts and make them complementary, to share your intellectual preoccupations and discoveries; in short, to make your sphere of mental activity identical through a widening and enrichment acquired by both at once—that is good, that is absolutely necessary, but it is not enough.
Beyond all that, in the depths, at the centre, at the summit of the being, there is a Supreme Truth of being, an Eternal Light, independent of all the circumstances of birth, country, environment, education; That is the origin, cause and master of our spiritual development; it is That which gives a permanent direction to our lives; it is That which determines our destinies; it is in the consciousness of That that you must unite. To be one in aspiration and ascension, to move forward at the same pace on the same spiritual path, that is the secret of a lasting union.
I write this to both of you, since you are about to marry with the aim of becoming one being in two bodies.
Keep this letter, even though now that you are full of the joy of new beginnings, you may find it a little too serious—keep it because some day you will be glad to be able to read it again, and perhaps it will help you to overcome some difficulty.’
(Ref. https://incarnateword.in/cwm/20/marriage)
The main difficulty is that in our present ignorant state, where men and women get easily attracted to surface things such as physical appearances, money, outer fame, etc., it is indeed very rare and difficult to find the true partner who, above all, shares a common inner aspiration. While a good partner can be a great help, a partner who does not compliment can end up greatly delaying, even destroying the partner’s inner life.
Affectionately,
Alok da
