I am dreading this week. Family is visiting, and the forced bonding is already spiking my cortisol. They are completely wrapped up in their own echo chamber—their lineage, their lifestyle, and their Guru are the "absolute best," and they constantly try to convert me or "pray for my suffering." 🕊️🌼[...]

It’s stifling, and pretending to keep the peace is exhausting. I’ve run out of empathy and feel like a hypocrite just exchanging pleasantries. I need to take this with a massive dose of humor: I only have to pretend to be their relation, not actually absorb their reality. I’ll just be grateful for the things that keep them busy so I can focus on protecting my own peace.

I can fully understand all these old world ways of life that often feel so stifling. But the more one tries to reason it out, the more the resistance grows, creating needless disharmony. It is best to practice inner detachment and equanimity. And yes, it always helps to keep good humour and move on in one’s journey quietly.

Affectionately,

Alok da

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After I wrote to you, since then Mother has taken away the sting and bitterness and recoil I was feeling every time I thought about the incident. I will try to do what you say, but I feel ill-equipped to teach her these values of resilience and detachment when I struggle so much with them. It’s like the blind leading the blind. 🌼🙏🏻 […]

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This is just the right way, to recognise what needs to change and then offer them to Her with the aspiration for the needed change, especially the urge to draw closer and closer …

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