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I have faced failure in 4-5 relationships with women, and it always feels like, in the end, they find a reason to leave me. Despite my efforts to make things work, this recurring pattern has left me deeply hurt, alone, and emotionally broken. There are times when the loneliness becomes unbearable, and I can’t help but wonder if there’s something inherently wrong with me, if I’m destined to face these struggles in relationships, or if I am meant to remain single forever😪.

It is difficult to comment on personal aspects. But man-woman relationship is a science as well as an art, especially a capacity to feel the other person’s inner and outer need, to allow enough space and freedom as well as balance it with closeness, intimacy and a feeling of being cared and loved. It is a long subject and perhaps you can read some books by reliable authors. In any case I don’t see any reason for the despondent note. While alone, enjoy the aloneness, when you discover (not find) someone to share your life with then enjoy the togetherness. 

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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