We have to learn only from our behaviours. We are responsible only for what we do and not for what others do. This is the first fundamental lesson of life.
What your Bhabhi has done goes with her. Each one faces the consequences of their actions. But by constantly harbouring ill will for her, you are generating wrong karmas for yourself. Ultimately, ill will returns to haunt the originator. In your own best interests, you should step out of this state of brooding negatively. It will help none, rather hurt everyone. On the other hand, if you respond to the whole incidence with forgiveness and surrender to the Divine Will, trusting in the Divine Providence, then you will, by invoking the higher forces, not only clear everything but also help your departed. Imagine how much they would be suffering to see you depressed and in a state of quarrel with your sister-in-law. Think about them and bring a state of peace and harmony to you and your family. Pray to Her Grace to give you Peace and turn your mind away to constructive and higher things.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
