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Pranam Sir. I want to ask about how to deal with negative anticipations, thoughts, and expectations in our daily life. One of my colleagues always targeting me and quarreling with me over each minor issue or mistake and even insults me in front of juniors. He is visually challenged. ๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿ•Š๏ธ[…]

The worst thing is that nowadays I anticipate that he will quarrel and so I prepare myself for self-defense prior to his actions. In this way, I am wasting my time and losing potential for creative work by thinking all these things. Please suggest how to escape from such evil thoughts.

The best way is to completely ignore him, and if you cannot do so, then remain inwardly totally indifferent to him. The best response to people who are hypercritical is complete indifference. The more you try to explain, the more they justify. The more you concede, the more they increase the criticism. But indifference completely flattens them.ย 

Such people draw energy from passing negative remarks about others. It makes them feel superior. But if you do not respond, they don’t get their refill of energies and soon turn elsewhere.ย 

You can also tell yourself that human opinions are opinions in ignorance and are not to be taken too seriously. If there is something genuine and helpful, you can take it. The rest can be quietly ignored.

Affectionately,ย 

Alok da 

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