What is the best way to maintain friendly and distant relationships, Alok da? Not too personal and close - don't share too much emotional stuff, but keep it healthy: just meet and greet once in a while, occasional conversations. 🤝🌿 [...]

Very few have the sense and sensibilities not to cross lines or not say inappropriate things. Difficult to explain nuances of ok not okay..

One should be like the dewdrop. It enhances the beauty of everything wherever it settles, but it sticks to nothing, is attached to nothing. One enjoys the light and the rain as long as you don’t try to possess it in your palms. Very few know the difference between love and attachment. Those who know it are happy whether near or far. Or as Khalil Gibran put it, ‘let there be spaces in your togetherness.’

Affectionately,

Alok Da

Pranam Sir. I want to ask about how to deal with negative anticipations, thoughts, and expectations in our daily life. One of my colleagues always targeting me and quarreling with me over each minor issue or mistake and even insults me in front of juniors. He is visually challenged. 🌿🕊️[…]

October 3, 2026

The best way is to completely ignore him, and if you cannot do so then remain inwardly totally indifferent to him. The best response to people who are hypercritical is complete indifference. The more you try to explain, the more they justify. The more you concede, the more they increase the criticism. But indifference completely flattens them…

What does the chant “OM SHANTI” truly signify—is peace merely the repetition of a sacred word, or a state to be deeply imbibed within the heart? We often define peace simply as the absence of external conflict, agitation, or turbulence, but this surface calmness is only temporary and amounts to nothing more than restraining turbulent emotions. What, then, constitutes real, unshakable inner peace, and how can one truly attain and sustain it? 🕉️🕊️

October 3, 2026

Peace is not an absence of disturbance. Even inertia is free from disturbance. Peace is something positive and powerful, a fundamental foundational status of the Divine, seemingly equal and non-reactive like Shiva bearing and upholding the dance of Kali upon his chest or the ocean holding its tremendous energy by its own power of self-limitation. maryada. It is a state of concentrated ingatheredness like the mountains or a vast Silence …

My sister is pregnant and has entered her ninth month. Because she has a low-lying placenta, the doctor has recommended a C-section and suggested dates around August 14th or 15th. When I learned about the dates, I suggested August 15th because it is Sri Aurobindo’s birthday. 👶🗓️[…]

October 3, 2026

Trying to find an auspicious date, hoping for a better future through the limited means given to man, stepping back from the first impulse and making rational choices are all part of human nature and hence natural. Medicine itself as well as technology and all else invented by the human mind is also natural in the sense that it is an extension of our mind that is given to us by Nature. Animal is driven by vital nature whereas man makes choices …

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What is the best way to maintain friendly and distant relationships, Alok da? Not too personal and close – don’t share too much emotional stuff, but keep it healthy: just meet and greet once in a while, occasional conversations. 🤝🌿 […]

What is the best way to handle/deal with people so that they don’t end up being overbearing and overpowering?

I’m realising too much familiarity is not good. And I’m soft. And the people of the world are slightly commercial, rough and tough types.

I don’t want to be on guard always… or feel like protecting myself from comments, etc.

Very few have the sense and sensibilities not to cross lines or not say inappropriate things. Difficult to explain nuances of ok not okay..

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