Intimacies have to do with affinities. People may be good to each other (which is a nice thing always) and yet the vital-physical nervous envelope may not match, thoughts may be discordant, soul’s journey may be in different directions. Two people may grow in two different directions or simply drift inwardly due to number of reasons. One needs to understand rather than feel guilty. In general it is not good to disrupt the harmony as it would upset too many things, especially since he is kind and nice. Of course you can always explain to him that you don’t want physical intimacy or try to keep it less frequent.
The solution is what you saw, – keep the Mother in centre and offer everything to Her. She will find the right balance.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
