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What should be the right attitude towards work?

July 9, 2024

Work is not about reward and punishment, success and failure, they are reactions of mind.

One should put the best possible effort taking it as

My parents and relatives are telling me to go abroad and do a course as they think I am too attached to my home and city. My only reason for not going is that I don’t want to leave home. Please Advise.

July 8, 2024

But you should go. If you go you will grow wide. To understand things, you need to go around the world and see. This will

Sometimes I feel no one values me. How do I stop that feeling?

July 8, 2024

Human beings do not know the value of things, let alone of people because they see everything from the lens of their selfish advantage. Generally

How to deal with manipulative people ? How to deal with people who use other people for their own benefit ?

July 7, 2024

What one needs to do is to draw clear boundaries and refuse to be a puppet to someone’s demands. Our choices and actions actions should

Sometimes but very rarely my 6 year old has bad dreams. If I ask her what it was about she says she doesn’t remember. How do I comfort her ?

July 7, 2024

Bad dreams that sometimes may take the place of nightmares are not uncommon in children. They may come either because

Please explain Hindutv of Sri Aurobindo and Hidutva of our sanskruti

July 6, 2024

Sri Aurobindo did not use the word Hindutva. The term has been coined more recently by Veer Savarkar ji. However everybody seems to put their

What is the most surprising thing in the world?

July 6, 2024

Well this question was answered by Yudhishthira, “Everyday people die and yet man thinks he is immortal.”

This well known phrase in the Mahabharata during

My mother-in-law interferes in everything in our lives, to the extent that she will change things in my room. My husband being a mamma’s boy does not seem to have a problem with this. He has to report everything to her, I do not like this. How can I manage this problem? as every time I end up fighting with him and always she continues to do what she does.

July 5, 2024

There is a tact and an art in this. You need to talk to your husband in a manner that he understands your point. Instead

My father scolds me in front of my new wife in a very insulting way. I do not like it and I feel she is losing respect for me. Nowadays I have started retaliating back but that stops him for that time but next time he again loses his temper and does the same thing. Please Advise

July 5, 2024

You need to draw the line and make it clear to him that this is unacceptable. Instead of retaliating you should discuss

My problem is that I want to trust on my kids but some outer circumstances and views I can’t trust on him. So what practice I should do to regrading these trust issues?

July 4, 2024

Whether we can have trust on the children or not we have to keep a watch over them till they grow up into responsible adults.

My mother-in-law does not let go of the control in the house even after years. She makes me feel that the house we stay together is her house, I too want to feel that I am living in my house. What to do?

July 4, 2024

It takes time to build a relationship and win the trust and confidence of those who are already there. It applies in the field of

Every time I am doing something important in my life, my father will tell me that it will not work out and I should not have my hopes too high, he is such a pessimist but still he gets inside my head and I am upset and full of tension, why is he not supporting me?

July 3, 2024

The question you need to ask is not why your father is not supporting you but that why you still believe

Can you please explain the difference between Gayatri and Savitri? How do you get this continuous flow of thoughts on any subject?

July 3, 2024

Gayatri is the personification of a specific metre in Sanskrit poetry. As a goddess, she is supposed to be the power behind the inspirations and

My daughter demands that we buy branded expensive clothes for her just like her friends wear. We cannot afford it but then I worry she will look the odd one out and girls will not include her in their group.

July 2, 2024

Explain to her through stories and examples that the value of a human being does not depend on how she looks or the clothes one

What impact does self-belief have on one’s ability to achieve success?

July 2, 2024

Naturally self belief or rather faith, – faith in

What does success mean to you personally?

July 1, 2024

To fulfill what we are born for, the purpose of our life, to be

When I meet some of my relatives, I feel so low due to the things they point out and the personal comments they pass to me and because of our social settings I just cannot avoid them, I don’t know what to do?

July 1, 2024

If you cannot avoid these relatives then you have to learn to ignore them. Human opinions are anyways of no value since

My children are home all day due to vacations, staff is also less and sometimes zero. Then they will make a mess, want to do painting and play with clay and I know I should let them do all this but later it gets so hard on me and when I ask then to help they will never help in clean up so all day I am irritated and tired. Why I have so much dependency on staff?

June 30, 2024

Dependency on staff is fine but it is better to explain and train the children to help clean up after they have played. It is

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What should be the right attitude towards work?

My parents and relatives are telling me to go abroad and do a course as they think I am too attached to my home and city. My only reason for not going is that I don’t want to leave home. Please Advise.

Sometimes I feel no one values me. How do I stop that feeling?

How to deal with manipulative people ? How to deal with people who use other people for their own benefit ?

Sometimes but very rarely my 6 year old has bad dreams. If I ask her what it was about she says she doesn’t remember. How do I comfort her ?

Please explain Hindutv of Sri Aurobindo and Hidutva of our sanskruti

What is the most surprising thing in the world?

My father scolds me in front of my new wife in a very insulting way. I do not like it and I feel she is losing respect for me. Nowadays I have started retaliating back but that stops him for that time but next time he again loses his temper and does the same thing. Please Advise

My problem is that I want to trust on my kids but some outer circumstances and views I can’t trust on him. So what practice I should do to regrading these trust issues?

My mother-in-law does not let go of the control in the house even after years. She makes me feel that the house we stay together is her house, I too want to feel that I am living in my house. What to do?

Every time I am doing something important in my life, my father will tell me that it will not work out and I should not have my hopes too high, he is such a pessimist but still he gets inside my head and I am upset and full of tension, why is he not supporting me?

Can you please explain the difference between Gayatri and Savitri? How do you get this continuous flow of thoughts on any subject?

My daughter demands that we buy branded expensive clothes for her just like her friends wear. We cannot afford it but then I worry she will look the odd one out and girls will not include her in their group.

What impact does self-belief have on one’s ability to achieve success?

What does success mean to you personally?

When I meet some of my relatives, I feel so low due to the things they point out and the personal comments they pass to me and because of our social settings I just cannot avoid them, I don’t know what to do?