During these fights, they even bring the children into the matter and say hurtful things like it was a mistake to give birth to them, making the children feel responsible for their conflicts.
Because of this, my friend has started blaming herself completely and is deeply distressed and emotionally troubled. In such a situation, would it be right to speak to her parents about this, or would it be better not to interfere in their personal matters? I am unable to see my friend suffering like this anymore. Please guide me on what would be the right thing to do.
Yes, you should speak to them if you know them. It is the right thing to do to try making them aware that their selfishness is hurting the children. Though it is doubtful whether they will listen or change. Try to speak to your friend about the absurdity of parents’ statements. She must focus on finding her own goals, her true life. Parents represent and reflect the old way of life. Children should move towards the future.
Affectionately,
Alok Da
