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One of your answers about Marriage is that it is for going together for Higher Consciousness and for Sadhana. Each one respect each other. After 23 years of marriage, if the husband’s aim is only to lead an ordinary life and, in each step, humiliate and disrespect the wife, then what will the wife do? 😣🧑🏻‍🤝‍👩🏻🌼[…]

I am not complaining, it’s a fact. Because of his attitude and ill-tempered behavior, one of the reasons for phychological problem in my daughter. If I told him something about The Mother, then he would tell me ‘Don’t give me any suggestions’.

In this situation, how do I balance myself doing my daily office as well as homework with constant remembrance of the Divine Mother? I am always praying to the Mother to change his mind, so that both can go together on the path of the Mother. 

It is for this reason that the ego has been given to man, to ensure that the self-development of the individual is not stifled or thwarted by the pressure of the masses. There is a basic self-respect, a dignity of life, that each individual deserves. There is a red-line that none should violate. If that line is being violated, it is better to become financially and emotionally independent and chart out your own unique journey, the path that is meant to be yours, the curve through which your life must pass, the destination that your soul wants to reach.

This is the other option one can take, especially if one still needs to be together for financial or other compulsions. You can pray that your husband changes, but generally it doesn’t work unless the person also feels the need and wills to change. My prayers and sympathy. May the Mother’s Love be with you and guide you. 

Affectionately,

Alok Da

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