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My partner enjoys eating non-veg, drinking, and partying, whereas I am the complete opposite—I prefer a quiet lifestyle, vegetarian food, and don’t like partying. We even tried to make the relationship work by agreeing that he could go to parties if he wanted, but he shouldn’t expect me to join. Despite our efforts to do our own things and tried to live in harmony, we still end up fighting so much. I’m not sure what to do🤨?

This is unlikely to work. The divergence and dissonance is too fundamental to be overlooked for life. Each doing their own thing is not harmony

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Why is it so difficult to break up with someone😭? There are things you like about the person, yet at the same time, some things don’t feel right about the same person. If two people aren’t meant to be together for a lifetime, why do they meet, fall in love, and then drift apart? Why do girls become so emotionally attached that letting go feels nearly impossible? The thought of that person loving and treating someone else the same way they treated you can be heartbreaking. You also feel jealous about these things. It’s(the breakup) overwhelming—making it hard to focus on anything in life, leaving you feeling sad all day and night, and disconnected from everything happening around you.

It is the sense of loss that torments us in a breakup. We naturally get attached to all that nourishes or nurtures us in some

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I feel very insecure in relationships and friendships. I have a strong need to know every detail about my partner and friends—their actions, decisions, and daily activities. If they don’t share things with me, I tend to fight. I also get jealous when they talk to others. I struggle to understand their need for privacy. I want to learn how to deal with these insecurities and build healthier relationships🙄.

Insecurity in relationship arises if there is a certain degree of emotional dependency upon the friend or partner. There is a fear of losing the

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They often tell me that it was the householders who had the supramental “downloads” or words to that effect. They also say marriage is an airplane route in this Integral Yoga Path. I’m not a grihastha as it is against the truth of my being & not in consonance with my needs. Not being a grihastha limits my exposure & experience of human interactions & hence limits the field & scope for progress. Am I then unfit or not qualified either for Integral Yoga or for being touched by supramental? Supramental is too far afield but these queries do come up now & then with age & passage of time). Please shed some light on this 🙏

This is supported neither by facts nor by spiritual logic. The truth of the matter is that marriage does come with a huge burden as

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I am officially separated from my partner, but a part of me is struggling to let them go. Some of it stems from jealousy, the thought that they might find someone better. While I genuinely want them to be happy, there’s still a part of me holding on. How can I make peace with the idea that they may eventually find someone else and love that person 😪?

Let them find whoever they are destined to find but an abiding happiness through objects of desire is as rare, if not impossible in the

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Does your boyfriend/girlfriend need to know everything about you and your life? Thing is, there are parts that my boyfriend won’t understand, and I can’t expect him to understand. But the love I have for the other person is true in its essence. I can’t give up either for the other, but it feels not beautiful to hide things. Equally, I don’t have the space to talk openly and if he knew it would break his heart. Is it better to just break off one relationship😥?

This is a tricky situation. To start with no one can ever understand the other person fully. In fact we ourselves cannot understand our own

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I have a very weird relationship with my parents when it comes to their relationships with their parents. I don’t share a very happy relationship with my grand parents due to their behavior with me and my family earlier in my life. They do not fit in my circle of people and i have communicated to my parents clearly that i will only have a cordial relationship with them, in terms of only greeting when we meet. I prefer to keep my wife and kid away from the grand parents influence, however my father’s expectation on this is more and we have a tiff every time an incident happens. I have come to terms with this situation, however how do I communicate this to my parents clearly and again😠?

Communication is mainly meant to build bridges by expressing what is going on within oneself. The purpose is to help build a bond of deeper

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I quit my job after 8 years. However there are still some aspects of the job for which I am responsible. The company has committed to me to remunerate for the work that I will do staying out of the system. However I think if they are irresponsible enough not to hire some one to replace me, why should I be involved. Moreover since the owners don’t care about their company and not hiring some one, why should I be emotionally involved and not move on. The only reason I agreed to do some work is my healthy relationship with my immediate boss. Please advise if I should continue helping them or not🙄.

Your decision to help or not to help should not be based on the owner’s approach towards the company but on factors personal to you.

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Before coming to the Mother, I used to give my everything to my friends around me even at the expense of myself. However, I always have given my all to these friends, and yet when I needed them most, the majority were not there for me. The girl I considered my best friend literally does nothing for me, even on my birthday. For a while I thought that it was because she just didn’t know how to express but yet she does so much for my other friends. So clearly she can but she doesn’t want to for me. This broke my heart. I know expectations spoil love, and I need to purify it, but it’s still hurtful to see. Now some new friends are slowly coming into my life, but my closest friends in the past are those whom have hurt me quite hard a few times and now I just don’t even see the point in making new friends. For me, Mother, Sri Aurobindo and my sister give me all the friendship I need. But even in the Ashram, there were beautiful friendships. But now 😔

The urge to be alone, the dropping off of old friends, the inner distancing from old ties, the new preferences indicating progress in different dimensions

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Many times I feel a burden with my relationship with my sibling, though he is an middle aged adult, my parents treat him like a child and they expect me to do so, our relationship is one sided one as I can hardly can rely on him, where else everything I am expected to do for him. Here I am not complaining as I don’t feel it’s right to constantly protect and spoil someone like a baby when I do not do that same things for my own children🙄, how can I manage this as all this hinders in my work and my purpose of life? 

Relationships need to be nurtured from both the sides, otherwise it is not a relationship but a sacrifice. And sacrifice of this kind, done out

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I have faced failure in 4-5 relationships with women, and it always feels like, in the end, they find a reason to leave me. Despite my efforts to make things work, this recurring pattern has left me deeply hurt, alone, and emotionally broken. There are times when the loneliness becomes unbearable, and I can’t help but wonder if there’s something inherently wrong with me, if I’m destined to face these struggles in relationships, or if I am meant to remain single forever😪.

It is difficult to comment on personal aspects. But man-woman relationship is a science as well as an art, especially a capacity to feel the

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