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Life Problems And Psychological Difficulties

How to deal with the worries and fears about a possible future difficulty, that may or may not come? I think my psychosis is magnifying my worries many times. Sometimes, I am unable to divert my attention from these worries, dear Alok da. I am praying to the Divine, which comforts me sometimes, but not always. I want to remember the Divine most of the time, but with these worries, it feels as if I am living in a mental hell. I want to take Refuge in the Divine, and so, be free of all worries, but I think my psychosis is not allowing me to nestle much in the Divine’s arms. I want to talk and pray to the Divine, both by speaking and writing to Him, but I am unable to come out of these worries, which is making it difficult even to talk to the Divine. I try to reason out the worries by mental analysis, but that is not helping either, perhaps because of my psychosis, dear Alok da. I want to connect to the Divine most of the time, but these worries are very painful😕

Don’t keep thinking of the difficulties and the worries. They only increase by it. As to psychosis take whatever treatment you may have been advised

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I am still not sure how to deal with my libido. As a young male, I occasionally experience extremely strong sexual desire. I am not in a relationship, I don’t masturbate or watch porn. I tried following some of your advice, such as exercise, breathing, creative expression, etc. It helped me enormously. But still there are times in which I just get completely submerged in lustful thoughts and overpowering desires. During such times I cannot sleep in the night and just crave sex intensely. When such states come, my mind starts telling me that I should just find somebody with whom I could have regular sex so that I don’t feel this agony😟, [conti]

What helps handling these strong sexual impulses is to stay as busy as one can be, especially with a work that can be done in

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My parents are asking me to start thinking about finding a man to date and eventually marry. They are nudging me to meet men. I was recently talking to one guy that I met while on a run. He stopped me and asked for my number and based on looks I gave it to him. We started to go running together and when I would go study on weekends he would join me. He is 4 years younger and now went back to college which is about 4 hours away so we were talking over text and phone, but today, on a call he asked me some questions about the future and I told him the situation with my parents about them wanting me to find a husband and the other factor which is race / ethnicity. The one I was talking to is of African and Mexican descent and I figured even though my parents are accepting, that it would cause some issues which I don’t want to deal with. Despite us getting along so well and him treating me like a princess, when I told him today he got very upset about it. Now I am not feeling inclined to reach back out and fight for it because he’s pretty upset and it feels pointless since I’ve made up my mind that I will listen to my parents / find an Indian man for them, but I also wonder if I made a mistake because I was afraid of family reactions and considering I did have feelings for him😥 [conti]

I understand your situation. But you must remove certain misconceptions about marraige. There are no ready made partners. Relationships have to be built and it

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Over the past decade I have faced far too many personal & professional failures. Nothing I seek is seeking me, in fact its getting repelled from me the moment I start working towards it. I’m loosing my faith in the world, I see myself alienating from almost everyone. I’m a well meaning, truthful and soul curious person. What’s happening to me? Is this a sign for me to leave the material world🥹?

It is the moment to reckon the truth that you are perhaps not marked for the things that you are seeking in ignorance. It is

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I feel like my life has been full of hardships and struggles. Nothing ever comes to me easily, while others seem to get the same things effortlessly. And even when I finally do receive what I wanted, I don’t truly enjoy it because when I needed it the most, it wasn’t there. In the end, I do get everything, but it often feels too late to matter😥. [conti]

Some lives are marked out for struggle, others for fruition. That is the whole idea of rebirth, a constant progress wherein the inner wealth we

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I feel like my life has been full of hardships and struggles. Nothing ever comes to me easily, while others seem to get the same things effortlessly. And even when I finally do receive what I wanted, I don’t truly enjoy it because when I needed it the most, it wasn’t there. In the end, I do get everything, but it often feels too late to matter 😥 [conti]

Some lives are marked out for struggle, others for fruition. That is the whole idea of rebirth, a constant progress wherein the inner wealth we

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