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Why we are  trapped by affection and love by our family members, relatives, friends and all these things. What is our true relationship with them.The Mother and Sri Aurobindo brings this eternal victory against death. That is death of death and manifest the Supramental being. Savitri didn’t let Jamaraj to bring Satyavan take with him. She could not bear his death, she fought against death and got victory against it. Is it possible to all human being. Can they also achieve it? Death is the necessary thing to learn and to grow up. But why immortality should manifest? Lots of questions arises in my mind Dada. What should I do🫤? 

March 7, 2025

We can continue the school analogy here too. Affection, attachments etc are not traps of illusion but steps and stages of our schooling. Just as

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Integrity to soul vs integrity to somebody else. I feel it’s a fine line and vulnerable to misuse in the name of soul integrity. But supposing somebody is following a higher call of the soul which comprises integrity to somebody else resulting in having to hide, lie, conceal etc. One side – there is following the true need – but does not lying, concealing etc. lower the consciousness ? Should we not always speak truth, be honest 🫤? Supposing the person you’ve lied to comes to find out – will that not results in a deep hurt and scars? Where is the line between selfishness and following a higher call and need ?

March 3, 2025

Absolutely true. Lying, deception etc are as far from the true soul life as earth from the heaven. It is also true that all scriptures

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Sometimes, you eagerly wait for a difficult situation to end because it feels exhausting and overwhelming. You keep wondering when it will finally be over. But when it does, instead of feeling relieved, you experience an emptiness, as if you’ve lost something meaningful. You might even start longing for that situation again, despite the struggles it brought, forgetting how difficult it actually was. Why does it happens😥?

March 1, 2025

It is because the vital energy was engaged in it. When the situation is over, the energy is released but then it is not directed

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I’m losing my capacity to act as per my will. I find often that I’m going back on my commitment that I make to others or I’m often late to events. Also, these days, I’m noticing that my fluency in speech and writing has gone down. I’m making mistakes, and even while arguing in debates, discussions, I find myself making flawed arguments.😏[Conti]

February 24, 2025

Try practicing meditation with the Gaytri mantra and cut down on sex and wasteful activities. Play games and stay happy doing the work that engages

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My parents say that reading Sri Aurobindo and the Mother’s books and listening to the talks, is pointless if I don’t prioritize them. They taunt me, insisting that if I don’t put my family first, everything I’m doing is meaningless. They believe there is a certain age for engaging in such things and feel that, despite all my reading and listening, my nature hasn’t changed, they criticize me by saying this. They question the purpose of it all. Deep inside, I know I am progressing in some way, but as parents, they remind me that I haven’t taken sanyas and can still take care of the family. I do that, but they want to control my life and expect me to follow their way completely. They say is that what they teach you in books and ashram 😥

February 23, 2025

This is an old outdated way of thinking that the main work of a child is support the family, look after the parents and to

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My mother has been suffering from neuropathy for some years and it’s becoming worse. Her toes and feet get constricted and numbness, tingling and burning in her hands and weakness in her legs going upwards. Since my father passed away few months ago, she has had many health issues which I have written to you. Her tests are all clear so we don’t understand why this is happening. She is losing her will to live and is in a depressed state. We keep encouraging her to Keep her faith in the Mother and be as normal as possible. She tries but doesn’t feel good. What is the spiritual cause for her physical issues? How can we help her 😥so that she helps herself?

February 22, 2025

The cause seems to be primarily physical, which could be anything from vitamin deficiency to blood sugar or thyroid issues. It is difficult to say

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I have not been in a relationship for over 7 years. My vital often gets attracted to people, but my mind is firmly convinced that a relationship is an unnecessary burden in my life. I shrink away from the thought of being committed to someone, of having to please another person. What an unnecessary waste of time and energy! But unless one is in a relationship, how is one to express one’s sexual urges😫?

February 20, 2025

Well one doesn’t get into a relationship only to express the sexual urge. All societies have always provided certain safety valves for that. Besides by

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I already have a daughter. When I conceived for the second time, some people advised me to take medicine from a different source to have a son, while others suggested doing a computer (sex selection). But I didn’t listen to them because everything I have received from childhood until now, I have received from the Mother. So I said that Mother will give what she wants to. But now that I have a daughter, people are asking why I didn’t do the computer or why I didn’t take medicine. I feel like I was wrong. I am unable to come out of this situation. I am not sure how to stabilize myself and move forward. Please give me some solutions😥.

February 19, 2025

We should listen to our own self and our own judgment instead of listening to people’s words. The Mother has never differentiated between a boy

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I just have a little question about harmony as today is Lakshmi Puja. How does one maintain harmony in the family effectively? When there are fights, I try to stay calm as long as I can and negotiate. However when it becomes unbearable, I give up and get angry. Sometimes when I make mistakes, I quickly apologize and try to correct it in order to maintain peace but it never seems to work well. My family keeps talking about my faults again and again even after I apologize. I am trying from my side but when the other person won’t co-operate, I don’t know what to do. I honestly feel like a failure. I have prayed to the Mother but is there anything else I can do from my side😥?

February 19, 2025

Harmony is very difficult to achieve in human relationship because each of the ego operating system. Hence each believes himself to be right and his

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My question was regarding dealing with colleagues at workplace especially when there are small talks are going on regarding very trivial matters. What should be our approach towards that! If we don’t get indulged in that discussion they treat us as outcasts!! So I was asking how to deal with everybody consciously with a right attitude at workplace which I suppose one of the most challenging aspects of professional life😯?

February 15, 2025

In the work place, it is best to remain professional and focused on the work. As to people, our interactions with them should be pleasant

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I realize that surrendering completely is essential, but I struggle with it. Right now, I’m not in a good place—while my batchmates are progressing in their careers, I am still without a job despite working hard. This has affected my confidence deeply, and I find myself feeling inadequate and easily distracted😥. Please advise.

February 8, 2025

Success in outer life is a combination of factors. It is not a judgment on one’s capacity or character. Besides each person has his or

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What I explored today when there were scoundrels harassing us in a park, that while focusing on getting Gyaan, I have ignored Shakti. I don’t have courage. I should have turned that man upside down. And is not the Mother’s protection with me? Then why didn’t I have any urge to fight anyone. I ignored those rascals without getting disturbed. But Why? They deserved to be beaten up. Understand my points please and Guide me😬.

January 31, 2025

As to Shakti, I agree. We have become too much seekers after philosophical knowledge and too much of emotional bhaktas. Both these things are no

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